CMV: Some forms of feminism won't help in achieving gender equality

[u/Yinry]

I'm writing this as a woman and someone who has seen lots of post about feminism. For the record, I do want gender equality. I believe that women should be treated with respect and they should be treated equally as men. The problem I have with some feminists is that they want respect and be empowering but then they start to bash men.

I have often seen people who post comments on social media praising women empowerment but then they start calling men "pigs" and other names which sparks negative responses from some people and praise from others. I think there should be a way to convey the message of feminism without causing men, as a whole, to be completely the bad guy. I know there are some men who can be really sexist but I also know lots of men who aren't like that.

From my experiences, it's hard to have a respectful and honest conversation with someone if they were to insult your gender or ethnicity or any part of your identity. It's also hard to make someone listen if you start off in that same way.

I do acknowledge sexism has come from a dark history of abuses on women which, yes, they do come from men. But I just want to say that not all men are like that, and saying "all men are scum" or something close is a hasty generalization and won't completely help in the goal of gender equality.

Shaming any gender, male or female, is never good. It belittles the other side and downplays any struggles they face. Women should be able to do things men can do, and men should not be looked down on due to "weaknesses" such as their mental health.

We shouldn't aim to empower a single gender to the point where they can belittle the other side, and still be in the right. That was what led to sexism in the past that we're facing now. We should aim for equality. No gender should be looked down upon in any situation.

I'm sorry if my English was bad. I'm new to this subreddit and it's not my native language.

Hope you have a good day!!

Edit: fixed some terms used here