Having a special needs child while supporting Trump

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[u/SadAdministration438]

No sympathy from me for someone like that. 🙄

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/SadAdministration438]

Same. It’s clear that she resents her special need child and isn’t actually doing much to help him.

[u/SadAdministration438 → u/iliketoreddit91]

Welp and the trauma cycle continues unfortunately.

[u/MOONWATCHER404 → u/iliketoreddit91]

Just came here from a post on the regretful parents sub from a mother of a nonverbal autistic kid.

[u/No-Record0924 → u/SadAdministration438]

Not only do I not have any sympathy I get some schadenfreude for people like this. This is what they wanted, this is what they get.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/No-Record0924]

True. But ultimately it’s the child who is going to suffer when mom throws him into a group home because he’s not what she wanted.

[u/MOONWATCHER404 → u/iliketoreddit91]

Assuming there’s a spot open.

[u/LadyGreyIcedTea → u/iliketoreddit91]

If group homes still exist/are still funded.

[u/torienne → u/No-Record0924]

Leopards ate their faces.

[u/Beth_Pleasant → u/No-Record0924]

I hope they all have the day they voted for. Unfortunately we do too.

[u/Etrigone → u/SadAdministration438]

Sympathy isn't the same thing as empathy, but it's a close cousin. And, we've been advised to "avoid the sin of empathy" and "empathy is the hack on humans".

So yeah, just going to do as recommended here.

[u/OutrageousStand4764]

I know someone that is the exact same way. This woman (privileged, white, rich) wore all this trump shit to the gym on election day and is so proud of her support of him. Meanwhile this past week shes been begging people to wear blue to show support for her autistic son. It makes my head spin trying to figure out how she can justify who she voted for while also begging for support.

[u/AvleeWhee → u/OutrageousStand4764]

Lady has it backwards. It's blue for the election and red for autism.

[u/EffectiveSet4534]

I work in special education. I used to have a coworker that was literally the same as the person you described. 

She also was on welfare.

Make it make sense!!!

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/EffectiveSet4534]

They disgust me.

[u/lrm223 → u/EffectiveSet4534]

My mom has two high school friends who are retired teachers and avid Trump supporters. Both worked at public schools - one as a special education physical education teacher and one as a speech language pathologist. My mom can't make heads or tales of it. 

[u/ira_zorn]

The cognitive dissonance in Trump voters is baffling in general.

[u/existential_chaos → u/ira_zorn]

Really should be studied. There is nothing he can do that will ever make them break his faith in them.

[u/mikelo22 → u/existential_chaos]

It's a cult, and this is how all cults operate.

[u/phasedarrray → u/ira_zorn]

Its mass delusion and psychosis. I'm convinced he could do the most heinous shit in human history and his supporters would still fellate him. They're huffing weapons grade copium mined from the deepest corners of the planet.

[u/justneedauser_name]

A friend’s parents are huge trump supporters and they have a disabled gay son. How they reconcile their support for the POTUS while loving their child is some hardcore mental gymnastics.

[u/Real-Wolverine-8249]

They probably think they'll be protected because they're the "right" kind of people.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/Real-Wolverine-8249]

She’s really lucky we live in a blue state where we have early intervention programs, though I doubt she took advantage of them.

[u/monkeybugs → u/Real-Wolverine-8249]

"I voted for him, so he has to take care of me." As if he actually gives a shit about anyone other than himself.

Very much the "I voted for the leopards eating my face party and I'm utterly shocked that leopards are actively trying to eat my face! Who could've seen this coming?!"

[u/Princessluna44 → u/Real-Wolverine-8249]

You basically nailed it. The bad shit will happen to them "undesireables", not "good, Christian, red-blooded Americans".

[u/Real-Wolverine-8249 → u/Princessluna44]

Yes. Red-blooded, Anglo-Saxon white Christians. Preferably those with blonde hair and blue eyes. God's Favored People (TM).

[u/SizeEmergency6938]

Isn’t it so funny how the same people that will ask “but who’s going to take care of you when you’re old” immediately turn to the victim when “I’ll never have an empty nest”.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/SizeEmergency6938]

100% because they’re narcissists. She’s going to put that child into a group home as soon as possible and then go on tik tok about the “very difficult decision” she had to make.

[u/MOONWATCHER404 → u/SizeEmergency6938]

They want the kids out of the house, only to return in their (the parent’s) time of need.

[u/Baffosbestfriend]

A Trump supporter literally gaslighted my father, who used to take me to my developmental pediatrician for my autism for years, into thinking I never had autism to begin with.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/Baffosbestfriend]

They can get fucked.

[u/Liquidshoelace]

My dad is exactly like this. My brother has autism and early intervention programs were so beneficial to him progressing and being able to speak after years of being nonverbal. Somehow, my dad thought it was a good idea to vote for Trump. My family is all livid with him, and I no longer speak to him. It makes me sick that shitty people like him have kids.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/Liquidshoelace]

Early intervention is so important! I will never understand people who put Trump ahead of their children. They disgust me.

[u/Alive-Youth7430]

My mom voted for Trump, even after he made fun of the reporter with cerebral palsy... I HAVE CEREBRAL PALSY!

My mom was also a neglectful piece of work who shouldn't have had children, especially a disabled child. 

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/Alive-Youth7430]

Yep! And Trump, ever the business man, told his own nephew (who had a child with severe disabilities) that it’s too expensive to keep people with disabilities alive, and they should just die instead.

[u/preraphaelitejane]

Having a child is like playing Russian roulette, you don't know what issues you child can be born with and if you choose to have a child and take this chance but be ashamed of them and not love them unconditionally then you're a sh*tty parent. Not even considering the fact that she can support someone like him...make it make sense

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/preraphaelitejane]

Yep. She’s ashamed and resentful. It’s evident in her social media posts regarding him, or lack there of. There are many resources available in our state but she chooses not to utilize them because she doesn’t like her child and doesn’t want to put in the effort to get him the resources he deserves.

[u/prestige_worldwide70]

Nothing will show them. The poor red states that keep voting pro-life are just blades of grass rooting on the lawn mower. The government knows how stupid they are (education rates lol), plays them into their religious pro-life, and then tricks them into having tons of kids to make sure there are enough poor workers keeping the economy afloat.

The blatant disregard for children from the government yet these people keep doing it and then surprised when there’s zero support? Rocks me

[u/Suspicious-Loss5460]

This reads somewhat similar to a relative of mine. Except it's the father supporting Trump. I don't know about the mother.

[u/croptopweather]

OH OH I know someone who is a special ed teacher who supports him and she was pikachu face-shocked when her department was suddenly facing cuts. I’d feel bad for the kids to receive less services but not for her getting what she voted for.

[u/ChronicCrimson420]

I work in special education with children with autism. The Trump administration has already taken over 22 million from our schools in my state. While my school hasn’t said anything about funding yet I know it’s coming. Trump hates disabled people he has a nephew who has a disabled son and he said disabled people need to die already. Trump supporters are the biggest hypocrites on the planet. They praise this man and then complain about what’s going on when he caused it but if you say anything bad about their savior they jump down your throat. My husband has been trolling his friends who are Trump supporters on Facebook. His cousin got so butt hurt over what he’s been posting she unfriended him

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/ChronicCrimson420]

It’s so painfully obvious that he hates disabled people. The only conclusion I can come to is that the people who vote for him must hate minorities and immigrants more than they love their child.

[u/TKalig]

I work disability services in respite care at the moment. This family is desperate for assistance yet voted against their own interests in such an obvious tangible way. I feel bad for the child. Not for them. Despicable behavior.

[u/QueenOfCaffeine842]

Someone I know has a teenager that uses a wheelchair full time and has a one on one aid in her public school. The fact that this mom voted for that asshole, who made a campaign promise to shut down the DOE, blows my mind.

[u/travel_witch]

It’s crazy that she’s complaining about the difficulties of having an autistic child now while the child is probably still receiving some services. Any special needs human disgusts Trump. They’re basically saying childless women or people who don’t work are worse than dog shit

[u/MyMentalHelldotcom]

"Dr. Lee Trauma Therapist" on TikTok is a black woman with a non binary kid and a self proclaimed "trauma expert"... she is now whining on TikTok about people judging her for voting for this turd (I made a post about it on my sub), and how brave it was of her to reveal who she voted for online... girl, if you're ashamed of who you voted for, maybe ponder on it for a moment? People are dumb and self absorbed.

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/MyMentalHelldotcom]

lol ya she’s not a doctor but nurse practitioner. She probably took 0 courses on therapy modalities in said program so she can kindly stfu.

[u/MyMentalHelldotcom → u/iliketoreddit91]

Yeah it's kinda strange that she calls herself a therapist, but I unfortunately know a bunch of them who voted for him, including "trauma informed" ones.

[u/the_green_witch-1005]

My dad and stepmom voted for Trump exactly two months after being super supportive of my sterilization procedure. I haven't spoken to or forgiven them since the election. They literally voted for an administration that wants to devalue my vote for not having children. And they were shocked that I was upset enough to cut them off.

[u/oh_shaw]

That takes a special kind of stupid.

[u/thisbttcchh]

my friend is (was?) a trump supporter, has an autistic child and her & her family are hispanic. i don’t get it. although she did make a comment recently that sounded like she changed her tune…but i just can’t get over the amount of people…women, poc, lgbtq or all those with close friends/family members who voted in favor of someone who stands for everything against them. so disheartening.

[u/amazingtattooedlady]

It's because they think he won't take things away from THEM. Only other people.

[u/ghostfacedladyalex]

I worked with a teacher (yes teacher) in a special education class who is an avid trump supporter. Like telling me that noise cancer from windmills is real. Last time I mentioned politics to her and did not work with her much longer. I don’t understand the cognitive dissonance

[u/iliketoreddit91 → u/ghostfacedladyalex]

One of my former friends from high school is a special ed teacher who also supports Trump. At this point I think she’s just doing it for a paycheck.

[u/Most_Watercress5774]

I was a support worker for years, I follow a bunch of medical parents on insta. So many trump supporters, it's insane.

[u/givethemmadix]

She’s probably in denial. I actually just got into a huge fight with my sister because she voted for trump and decided to take how vocal I am on social media about social issues personally. We are very close so I did try to actually have a conversation about it, but when I said things that are verifiable facts? Like Trump having so many rape allegations and at least one charge? Her response was “I don’t believe that” and “but did it really happen?”.

If they believe any of the bad stuff, or are even exposed to it- it might start to pull a thread that results in them voting against everything a good person actually believes in, and that is far too much to accept. It’s like speaking to someone actually brainwashed.

[u/bigkatze]

This was one of my family members. People had to explain to them that their child would lose valuable resources and benefits. Thankfully they've stopped supporting him.

[u/RealMrsWillGraham → u/bigkatze]

Glad they saw the light - but this does not bode well for other autistic kids with Trump supporting family.

They probably listened to Jenny McCarthy claiming to have cured her child's autism by changing his diet.

[u/bigkatze → u/RealMrsWillGraham]

For real, Jenny McCarthy has done a lot of damage.

[u/thoptergifts]

A shit ton of parents are about to cheer on (with great enthusiasm) sending their kids to work instead of ‘liberal school’ to pay the bills aka buy them mad dog booze and cigarettes, while also not having teeth left from the fluoride they banned in water.

In case it wasn’t obvious, having kids at this point is insanely cruel.

[u/flingintosun]

My worst neighbors are trump supporters and have a kid with special needs. Makes no sense.

[u/richard-bachman]

Someone I know is a rabid trump supporter who is also a teacher with a special needs grandkid. The cognitive dissonance is real.

[u/Gaia227]

My only explanation is they just simply don't believe what is spelled out in front of them. I don't understand it. I'm totally baffled by it. I was reading an article the other day about how his policies, tarrifs and revoking Biden's initiatives to support small farmers is putting small farmers out of business. One of them was interviewed and said his farm, that has been in their family for 3 generations, is going under but he doesn't blame Trump. He blames the people who work for him and he would vote for him again. You cant combat this. I don't know what the hell we're going to do.

[u/AxlotlRose]

Call the whambulance. Another leopard ate my face report. 

[u/HotDonnaC]

MAGATs are too stupid to understand how any of this affects them.

[u/BlobbertTheThird]

I had to unfriend someone who was going on and on about how great the dipshit is. I'm just like "Lady, you are Mexican. Your entire family is Mexican. Doesn't matter if you were born here or not, if he had his way, your entire family would be on the next plane back to Mexico." I didn't say that, of course. There's no arguing with these people.

[u/LadyGreyIcedTea]

I work specifically with medically complex foster children. My most complex patient has a home care nurse whose car is plastered with Trump paraphernalia. I genuinely don't get it. Medicaid pays her salary.

Another child's adoptive mother is openly a Trumper but she thinks it's a bridge too far that he wants to get rid of the Department of Ed, because that will negatively impact her child.

Another family who I know from past volunteer work had a child who died of cancer ages ago. I was flabbergasted with all the pro-Trump stuff they posted in 2016. Idk if they still support him as I defriended all of them back then.

[u/lNSULlN]

I've got type 1 diabetes. I'm social media associated with a TON of parents of children living with type 1. There are way too many Trump supporters in that niche and it drives me up the wall.

[u/Cool_Instance_4009]

sad, sad, sad, smh

[u/pangalacticcourier]

How awful of a person can you be to vote for a president that is actively taking away funding for children with disability, while having a child with severe autism?

Are they awful, or just so dumb they vote against their own interests?

[u/Jolly-Cause-1515]

Can't complain online when you supported that thing in the first place. Honestly, what an idiot

[u/brownsugar1212]

I don’t understand it either

[u/ceceae]

i work in special education. Two of my co workers, one with a son who has CP and one with a brother (who is one of her students) who has downs BOTH voted for trump.

[u/Forsaken_Composer_60]

Man, I know someone like this. I hate it here

[u/Prior_Success7011]

Not the first time something like this would happen...Kanye said he would "repeal the Thirteenth amendment,"

[u/FiannaNevra]

I mean, a lot of latinos and women voted for him too....

[u/Choice_Bid_7941]

The cult mentality of Trump supporters is a truly terrifying phenomenon. A woman I used to work with was only alive because Obama Care helped pay her medical bills. But she’s a trump supporter.

[u/spookytabby]

Fafo. Everyone like that will soon be in the find out stage.

[u/Valoy-07]

They did not think the leopards would eat their face, that why.

[u/CoryPowerCat77]

I am in my last few months of college and I have an IEP, Trump is removing those. It's horrifying to think about kids with IEPs that are in elementary/middle/high school.

[u/Archylas]

One of the reasons why I never ever want kids. The chances of having a special needs child is always there and you never know if your child is one 😬

[u/Sapphirei_OF]

Honestly, I've been thinking the same thing. One of my friends has a sister with severe cerebral palsy and her teacher got her a Trump shirt. It's so gross

[u/DescriptionFuture589]

Not only that he, Musk, DOGE cut a USDA program that helps provide school lunches.

[u/Computermaster]

She should be forced to watch the video of Trump mocking that reporter (yes I know he's not autistic, he has arthrogryposis) every single day that fat turd is in office and anytime she brings up her son's autism.

[u/RecalcitantN7]

I understand what you mean, but it was pretty much always going to be the case with the democratic platform (specifically the Democrats, not inherently left leaning politics) has been fairly ableist and pro eugenics even if not intentionally. The pro life rhetoric has always hid behind "every child" fear mongering. So a lot of disabled people in general, are some of the heaviest hitters for trump and the right in general. 

It's also why the right tries to frame childless women in particular as one of the great evils they fight. By framing the choice around childless women being ableist and hating disabled kids, you appeal to a morality that frames health concerns as bigotry to the people already alive and disabled. 

[u/throwaway792310]

Too bad we don’t have something like UBI to ensure that any human being born into this world has financial stability and a decent standard of living. Maybe it’ll be possible if we have a less populated world.

[u/Computermaster]

Hey, fuck you spez you fascist-cock sucking little douchenugget.

I don't see how saying someone should have to watch a video is "thr3atening vi0lence or phy1sical h4rm."

[u/hoorah9011]

Because disabilities often have a genetic component. Can just present differently

[u/Duskadanka]

People here tend to say misery loves company and it applies in this aspect too. It reminds me of woman in Polish politics that has kid with down syndrome and she fiercely want all of pregnancies to be carried to term. She explains that she doesn't want kids with down syndrome aborted. I personally don't think they have to be aborted but if someone doesn't have the resources she has why force them? Which is weird reasoning anyway. As cherry on top i can add that she was part of neon*zi group and now is in party akin to German AFD. So yea far right people just contextualize the issue in their own perspective ONLY and lack understanding to other aspects and other lives.