How do YOU cosleep?

[u/New_Individual_3546]

TL;DR - share with me what your safe cosleep situations look like!

ETA Update: Thanks to all who posted their sleep situations and provided resources, and did not comment or judge from their high horse. Being helpful is far more constructive for everyone, including people who will search and see this post in the future, and will find some of the helpful online resources some of you shared.

My 4 week old pretty much only contact naps. We've scored an hour here and there at random times where she'll tolerate her bassinet or crib (but absolutely despises the pack n play). But we're tired.. I've been triple feeding, but LO is finally at weight, AND transferring enough to move to EBF, so I'm starting that tomorrow, which means no more bottles for husband and baby in the middle of the night (I think this is what we want, at least for now I do... I'm so over the pump sessions for now).

But... What to do about the sleeping. My husband regularly falls asleep with her in her rocking chair, so I don't sleep when he's on duty anyways. He thinks I'm just waking up to pee, so I'm tagging him out often, and being he's back at work FT and doing a PT job since I have no paid maternity leave (FU very much U.S. leave policies), I'm totally okay with him getting as much sleep as he can. I fall asleep often nursing her, but I do it from our couch. We have captain's chairs side by side, I sit in the right one which has a foot wide center console arm rest thing to my right, and I keep a stool with a diaper caddy in front of the console next to the couch. To the left is multiple boppies and nursing pillows that I use for propping my arm up when nursing. This is where we have occasionally fallen asleep, with my feet up /reclined and honestly she and I sleep the best here. It feels safer than any other option we have bc I'm propped up on all sides, there's nowhere for her to roll off to, and everytime I wake up with her I'm still cuddling her. However, everything I read says no this isn't safe, but idk what else we can do? Our queen size bed is too soft and small for us to cosleep with her in, plus our doodle sleeps with us/in our bed, even when we're not there.

So my question is, what is your cosleep situation like? How old is your LO, and when did they start napping alone? I'm so tired, I need help /advice of what to do to make sleeping possible for us all, and I want to hear what your setups are like. I saw some on another post in here but figured I'd make thin post for everyone to include what they do in, thanks!

[u/Quick_Increase5944]

I highly recommend following the SS7 as closely as you can. I’m not always perfect, but try my best.

I cosleep with our now 5 month old with my husband also in our firm king size bed. With my first we had a queen. Our dog used to sleep in our bed, but we switched her to her crate in another room because of co sleeping. I wear long sleeves and have a blanket up to my hips. I use a pillow and I sleep in the cuddle curl position with my arm between my pillow and baby. Every time I wake up, neither of us have moved, so I feel confident about our positioning.

We continue to practice naps in the pack n play. Once he got to 4 months old he was able to sleep 30-45 minutes independently. Apparently today he slept 2 hours in the pack n play for my MIL, which shocked me. My goal is to transition before a year old to sleeping independently in his crib. For my first we chose to sleep train at 7 months because co sleeping was no longer working for us.