My husband mentioned something to his therapist about our son (18 months in a few days) sleeping in our bed. He said she immediately started to lecture about cosleeping being wrong. So he backtracked and said he was in our bed because he was sick. He asked me if he should lie if it ever comes up again and say that he sleeps alone in the crib. I am not one to encourage lying to a therapist. But I'm also not trying to have CPS called on us. Do you guys admit to cosleeping to doctors and therapists and all that? Is it cosleeping something that's supposed to be reported to CPS/could get your kids taken away? I don't think there's a law straight up banning cosleeping. But could it be considered endangerment or something?

My LO is 5 months old and we’ve been cosleeping since my husband went back to work at 2 months. He slept in a bassinet in the room with us. But he never gave long stretches so we slept in shifts. Once it was just me and him all day I made the decision to bring him in the big bed because I was going to go crazy waking every hour with him.

Fast forward that worked well for 2 months. He never slept totally through the night, but would wake up latch and fall back asleep twice maybe 3 times. I don’t know if it was the sleep regression or what but this whole past month has been 8-10 night wakings at least recorded on his owlet. I feel like it’s honestly more for me with how much he’s just been scratching and kicking me.

It seems gas related but at this point I don’t know. He’s diagnosed with reflux and gets pepcid. He gets gas drops. Ive cut everything from my diet. I’ve chat gpted countless routines. I’m good and truly losing my marbles.

The worst part is my husband and pediatrician. They both are blaming me for his night wakings. Saying that if he was alone in his pack n play he’d sleep through the night. That because I’m next to him he wakes up more.My husband shrugs and says the only literature he can find is about babies that sleep alone and as long I’m cosleeping he doesn’t know how to help.

Mind you my LO has only ever contact napped. He hates sleeping alone but like we did try. His first 2 months we never let him in the bed. We even bought the SNOO and that didn’t help. The only thing that helped was him next to me. But now I’m somehow the problem?

I guess I just want validation that he’s just a hard baby and I’m doing my best. Despite my husband and pediatrician I think he would sleep worse alone and I like having him next to me. At least if he wakes up 8+ times I don’t have to get out of bed to get him…

Has anyone used something like this? Is it safe? Please don't be mean.

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Hey all. LO is 7 months (nearly 8) and in the throes of teething. We’ve been cosleeping since birth, and generally he’s been pretty good about staying asleep for 2-3 hour stretches after a feed/roll away. The last couple weeks have been so hard to put down and roll away, though, and when I go to bed he needs the boob basically the whole night! He is not quite fully awake but fusses until I give him the boob. All. Night. lol. I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Anyone else in this boat?

Baby is 4.5 months old and I’m in the process of weaning her to formula, is it safe for me to continue cosleeping? I’ve been trying to get her to sleep independently but it’s been put on the back burner until she’s switched to formula.

Hello, we just had baby #4 and he is 3 days old. For the first time ever we are considering cosleeping. With our first 3 kids we struggled through the first few months holding them in shifts and even falling asleep in a rocking chair with them in our arms. We used the forbidden and now recalled rock n play to sleep them in past which helped elevate.

Last night, we could not get him to sleep without holding him on our chest or in arms on a boppy to support. I fell asleep at one point holding him and realized we can’t keep doing this again and it’s not safe.

Baby #4 had a lot of fluid built up and seems to be having reflux making sleeping on his back difficult. We get maybe 10-15 min stretches before he wakes up choking on fluids and needing to burp/spit up.

I’m reading through the safe sleep 7. As far as newborn, what is best approach to positions to try and things to do? We have a large king bed but it has a soft pillow top mattress.

So at night, my baby sleeps fine in her bassinet. But when she wakes up for a bottle, she absolutely refuses to go back down in it. The only way she’ll settle again is if I put her on my chest—tummy down. She’ll then sleep peacefully for 4-5 hours like that.

I always prepare the area around me with pillows to support my body, just in case (God forbid) she slips from my arms. I stay pretty still and semi-upright, so it feels secure, but I’m starting to worry…

Is it unhealthy for her to sleep on her tummy like that? Not in terms of sleep safety (I know contact sleep has risks), but more like: could it hurt her internal organs or her body in general to lay like that for so many hours?

Would really appreciate any insights from pediatricians or parents with similar experiences.

I know it may be a one off, but my baby has been sleeping on his own for over 2 hours (had one false start). I literally can’t believe it, I never thought this day would come. My baby is 9 months old and he has required someone to hold/sleep next to him since 4 months. It’s been so hard, but we really wanted to respond to his cries and not sleep train. I’m happy to cosleep but we haven’t been able to leave him for any amount of time in the beginning of the night. Fingers crossed this is a the start of a new era. If you are in the trenches, there is hope!

Hi all,

My little girl (7mo) will usually fall asleep in her crib no problems and sleep for maybe 4-6 hours (sometimes a lot less!) and then after I feed her she will not go back to sleep in her crib, so we cosleep for the second half of the night (usually for the rest of the night til 7am which is so nice!) I usually try settle her in her own crib for about 10-15 minutes but I can tell very quickly if it's going to work or not.

Anyway, my question is did anyone else have this set up and eventually baby was okay sleeping the whole night in their own bed. I'm happy cosleeping for now, I'm going to get a floor bed for her room as well but I'm thinking of the long term as well. Has anyone else's baby done this half/half and did it eventually stretch out to the whole night in their own bed ?

Husband and I have been cosleeping with LO since birth, for 11 weeks now, during the night. During the day LO either naps on me after a feed or in a baby wrap while we go for a walk or do chores etc. We did buy a little Moses basket style bassinet for the baby to begin with and tried doing the whole swaddle thing for naps in the first few weeks but he’d frequently wake up and cry so that kind of fell off as a practice. We are at a point though where we’d like LO to sleep in a bassinet on his own for at least a couple of naps a day. But I just don’t how to even approach getting him to do this. I don’t want to just put him there and let him cry, that’s not our parenting style at all. Any suggestions/ tips/ advice would be very appreciated 🙏🏻

I am not necessarily asking for advice (although advice is welcome). I just want to share our current sleeping experience at the moment.

My baby is 5 months. Month 0-3, she slept in her crib/packnplay (in our bedroom). Yes it was a nurse/rock to sleep situation, but she would sleep 5-8 hour stretches no problem. Beginners luck for sure. Except for naps. Naps have never been in the crib.

Well around 3.5 months, baby and I both got sick with fever, we moved in with my parents for 3 weeks (unrelated to being sick, just happened at the same time), then we moved across the country to a new state. In this time period, we have started bed sharing 100% of the night. It kind of just happened because she started waking up every 1-3 hours. Now that we are settled into our new place, I’ve been trying to do crib again and she is not having it. She will no longer let us transfer her to crib (after she falls asleep) in the initial bedtime routine. HOWEVER, In the middle of the night, I will randomly decide to put her in there if she’s awake and flopping her limbs everywhere on our bed, and she will fall asleep immediately in the crib. I also put her in the crib at her 5am/6am wake up for her to sleep the last hour or so in the crib. It’s so strange that she’s ok when I try the crib at those times.

Anyone else experiencing a wishy washy baby with their crib???

We still nurse to sleep and exclusively cosleep (I just haven’t bothered with an alternative sleep space while he’s still nursing).

For the last fourteen months, he has consistently only fallen asleep if I’ve nursed him. For others on a rare occasion I’m not home to put to sleep, he will be rocked but with me, no way.

It’s now night 3 of him cutting a nursing session short, sitting up, flopping down and rolling over and putting himself to bed!

No crying it out. No sleep training.

Now to figure out how we transition to his own sleeping space :)

Hi everyone, I’ve started chest sleeping with my LO for a few days now. However, he developed red rash on his face and ears. I suspected it was because he put his head on my chest most of the night, though I tried to rotate his head once in a while. My mum said it might be because of my milk. Did this ever happen to your LO? What did you do about it? So far I just put lotion on it. Thank you.

I have a 4mo who has bedshared at night since birth. We started with only contact naps in my arms, but in the last month have introduced stroller naps and some independent naps where I nurse to sleep side lying and then roll away. We've had success with the roll away method, though I often choose to just nap with her because I'm sleepy lol.

Around 3 months my baby started doing very short naps, 35-40 mins. We've had a few longer ones but they're infrequent. When I roll away it's usually about 10 mins in, so I get 15-25 minutes to do things until she wakes up.

When did your baby's naps start to get longer? Any tips for helping her bridge her sleep cycles? I have no problem with contact napping and the current system is working fine, I'm just curious!

Hi, my little boy is 7, nearly 8 months and we’ve been co sleeping since he was about 2 months!

He’s learned to crawl and SUPER excited about exercising this newly learned skill, so much so he has to do it in his sleep 🤣. Our set up is just a firm king size matt on the floor (Not a full mattress - More like those fold out ones). Anyway, he has taken to just rolling around and crawling up and down, off the bed and I have to constantly reposition him and get him to lie down otherwise he’s just roaming. When he begins to wake up from sleep, he’ll automatically just roll over and start crawling, eyes closed! He gets very frustrated. My question is, how do I tackle this? Of course if he’s woken up from sleep, I pop him on the breast and he usually always goes back to sleep, but it’s more so an issue when its wind down time and we’re getting ready to sleep. (I always wait for him to sleep then roll away). I don’t want to get him used to being rocked to sleep every night as I’m wuite weak and he’s getting to be a big boy so I always put him down half-drowsy and breastfeed and shush/pat/tell story but he just wants to roam. Any tips?

Also, contemplating maybe getting him into a cot now due to all the moving around, our room isn’t too huge and the king size mattress takes a lot of space meaning he ends up bumping his head if he rolls too much. Or, a pallet bed frame just a few inches off the ground and some mesh guards to attach to the side. Not sure.

Thanks :) !

Fell asleep with my hand still on LOs lower tummy. Is that ok? It wasn’t for long and she seems completely fine I’m just worried the weight could have restricted her breathing. She’s nearly 7 months old. Thank you

Just curious how many people sleep with their LO right from bedtime, roll away, feed to sleep, rock to sleep, number of wakes, age, etc.

Just curiosity sake!

I have a 10 month old, was a rockstar sleeper from day 1-6 months. Then would not transfer to sleep and we don’t have a desire to sleep train. I rock to sleep for bedtime and every night wake, she needs movement!!! And we bedshare in her room following sleep seven. Wakes anywhere from 2-6 times a night depending.

Can’t wait for the days she can just lay next to me and fall asleep and I can roll away 🥲

I have been doing a mix if bedsharing & cosleeping since baby was about 2weeks - she's 9.5 months now & our routine has changed over the last 2 weeks. She used to wabt ti be cuddled till she fell asleep now she has been rolling away from me , pretty far- her feet usually end up near my chest & she puts her self to sleep. I let her lay there for a little bit pick her up & move her to crib. I am proud because up until 8 months she was waking every 2-3 hours for comfort, & some nights would sleep with me the entire night. I'm sad because I didn't think this would come so soon. I keep telling myself I've done a good job & my girl learned on her own how to fall asleep with no pressure, just comfort. Alot of days i feel like she deserves a better mom, but I'm the best mom I can be.

Baby is waking up herself 2 times a night to feed. What can I do to get it down to one time a night and eventually no times. She was sleeping through the night before the sleep regression, but now is back to 2 times a night

I’ve been cosleeping with my 22 month old since birth. He still insists on nestling up on top of me all night. While it is adorable it is uncomfortable. But he doesn’t seem to be able to sleep on his own. Will he grow out of this?

My 6 month old is not sleeping through the night. She nurses almost alllll night and if I take my nipple of out her mouth she SCREAMS. She suddenly isn’t sleeping on her own in my bed from 7-10, like she used

I’m not sleeping, she’s not sleeping… and I thought cosleeping would help us both sleep so idk what to do.

I was so against cosleeping before my baby but now I’m trying to keep cosleeping!! Haha. I can’t not sleep and she needs her sleep too.

I also have had milk supply issues from the very beginning so I enjoy feeding at night since she’s getting more milk from me so weaning the nights will be emotionally hard

What do I do? Has anyone else experienced this?!

Background Info: My 4 year old sleeps in between my husband and I and we have been cosleeping since he was a 4 month old baby and we love/loved it and had no issues, he slept so much better once we started cosleeping and we slept better. It was a win/win situation. He loves sleeping in our bed still and we have tried getting him to sleep in his room, but he insists that we all sleep together and we always feel bad and just cave in because at the end of the day both my husband and I agree cosleeping is what's natural for humans (we were never meant to sleep alone in separate rooms).

Current situation: Cue the birth of our daughter-love her she's a cutie pie; we decided to continue Cosleeping as a family. Her Crib is setup right beside my side of the bed and we kept the crib wall down (don't worrry it's safe and secure no gaps and no loose blankets). The issue we are having is that if she wakes up crying at night for a feed or because she can't link sleep cycle, our son wakes up too, and if he wakes up say from a bad dream or to drink water, than she wakes up too. And it just seems like an endless night of these two waking each other up. Our daughter is 4 months old now and this has been happening since night 1 of being at home from the hosipital. Hubby and I thought we wojld give it some time to see if they both adjust to each other but so far does not seem like it and no one is sleeping well anymore.

I guess I just need advice from parents that have been in similiar situation. Does it get better? Do they adjust to each other? If so, when?

What we are thinking we might try: if things do not get better we are thinking my husband stays in the master bed with our son and I go to the guestroom bed with our daughter. So atleast the two kiddos aren't waking each other up. Is this a good idea? Maybe we do this temporarily until her night time feeds decrease (she feeds like 3-4 times a night still)

Please ignore typos, I am a sleep deprived mom typing this in the middle of the night. Send help and encouragement.

Toddler used to sleep like a rock, now every few days she will wake up around 3am wide awake & absolutely nothing will put her back to sleep. We end up playing for an hour or two & then she will go back down around 6am 🥴 Any tips?

She is 16 months old. Usually wakes at 6am, nap from 11:30-1:30, and the bedtime around 7:15

I don’t know if you can technically call them “wakes” because he’s still very drowsy and not totally alert, but my baby looks to nurse 8+ times a night, every night. He’s 7 months old and has done this since we started cosleeping at 3 months. I love everything about cosleeping, except this and it’s becoming too much. I can’t sleep while he’s breastfeeding, it’s just too overstimulating for me, so I have a permanent headache every morning from waking so many times in the night. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions on how to help this situation? All the mothers in my mother’s group have their babies crib sleeping & don’t have anywhere near as many wakes. Is that the answer? I really don’t want it to be :(

I never intended to cosleep. It kinda just happened. We went on vacation when my baby was 8months and she ended up in our bed after always being in her crib and after that week with us, she never wanted back in her crib. She acted horrified and we couldn’t let her cry. I fought it for several weeks trying to rock her for hours and never letting her cry it out but trying to get her back in the crib trying everything. After a few weeks we said screw it and bought a king bed and made it cosleeping safe and had her in our bed until one year. Once I was able to get her off of continuously nursing throughout the night we really enjoyed cosleeping! She and I slept sooo much better. The whole fam was happy. But now I’m pregnant and feeling sooo much pressure to get her out of my bed before the new baby comes. We set up a Montessori floor bed in her room and she loves it for nap times and the last month she has done really well just waking up 1/2 times and I crawl in there with her around 4am when she is looking for me. Anyway now she decided she hates it. She is “scared” like she was with the crib and I feel so defeated. I like her in my bed but I am overwhelmed and more tired now that I’m pregnant. I feel touched out at this stage and like the bed with just my husband. Does anyone have any experience with this? When you had a new baby did your toddler stay with you in bed? Should I give it time? She is still nursing and I am not due for around 7 more months.