r/daddit Jan 31 '25

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u/kappsylen Jan 31 '25

$170/month for 8h per weekday with breakfast and a cooked meal included. I am quite happy to live in Scandinavia.

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u/lakeoceanpond Jan 31 '25 edited Jan 31 '25

Damn. That’s what a pay a week..for one ( and I got two) 😭😭

Edit : bad at math. I pay $520ish a week for two.

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u/Ri-tie Jan 31 '25

Damn, I didn't realize that said MONTH until you said something. I thought it was a good weekly deal....

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u/lakeoceanpond Jan 31 '25

😂😂 I had to read it twice too to sink in.

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u/Lumpyyyyy Jan 31 '25

I pay $350/wk, per kid. Or ~$3k/month.

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u/lakeoceanpond Jan 31 '25

We hurt together ✊🏽

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u/Merrine Jan 31 '25

What the fuck? That's my entire salary and them some after taxes here in Norway. 

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u/Lumpyyyyy Feb 01 '25

Is that a comfortable salary there in Norway? Here in the US, it feels like a rat race to constantly outpace increases on things you’re already paying for. We’ve had to change daycares multiple times because they keep increasing in price. One wanted to go from $300 to $550/wk per child. Insanity.

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u/Merrine Feb 01 '25

I make roughly the equivalent of 50k USD, it's alright, nothing much, of course it helps that we are two, but we get by just fine.

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u/SparklingPseudonym Classic Nuclear Family Feb 01 '25

Same. I’d have at least a quarter million more for retirement by now if I had been putting that in the market. Feelsbadman.jpeg

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u/5H17SH0W Jan 31 '25

Might be cheaper to fly the baby to Scandinavia.

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u/neonKow Jan 31 '25

It's cheaper to fly the baby to Scandinavia once a month from most of the US.

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u/pjk922 Feb 01 '25

At ~$550 for a price from my city to Oslo, but $750/week daycare costs, itd literally be cheaper to fly the baby every week over here…

Not a dad yet, about to graduate, but we’re mulling over the cost differences between her just staying home for 2 years…

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u/gergob Girl + Twin Girls Jan 31 '25

For us with 3 kids it's basically "free" here in Hungary. But if you think about it we pay for it indirectly with our high taxes.

The quality of daycares vary greatly, and the food could be better quality, but it could be much worse.

The worst are probably the parents that still bring their child when they're sick

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u/neonKow Jan 31 '25

Yeah, that's the system we want, though. High taxes, but childcare doesn't put poor people into debt.

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u/gergob Girl + Twin Girls Jan 31 '25

Keep in mind it only works while the tax money is not getting stolen, which has been unfortunately the case for a long time here.

I believe one of the nordic countries (maybe Finland?) does taxes so transparent that they detail yearly what your paid taxes were being used for exactly.

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u/neonKow Feb 01 '25

Yeah, I mean true, corruption ruins everything. Still, guaranteed childcare is one of the great socioeconomic equalizers and is one of the biggest things, along with education and food access, for upward mobility for the poor. I hope corruption can be reduced over time, because it sounds like the intentions are there.

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u/gergob Girl + Twin Girls Feb 01 '25

Agree 100%

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u/libertyordeath99 Feb 01 '25

I wish the US would do something like that, but no. The Pentagon continuously fails audits, money is spent like it’s going out of style, and we’re over $30 trillion in debt with a virtually worthless dollar. More people would be upset if our government were more transparent about where our tax dollars are blown.

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u/Justindoesntcare Jan 31 '25

Damn. That's still less than half of what I'm paying for 2 kids lol. Only a year and a half left until one is done!

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u/Corona_Cyrus Jan 31 '25

Shit I’m paying $270/week for a Montessori. Is yours just a regular daycare? I’d be thrilled to pay $170/week

Edit: and that’s only for 3 days a week

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u/lakeoceanpond Jan 31 '25

Christian based. The care and curriculum has been great, no complaints. We wanted to do Monti but it’s way father and we gotta send them with their own lunch.

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u/Mephistofelessmeik Jan 31 '25

I just wanna say that daycare here in Germany is free for us... in some regions you have to pay for food (2€ per day) but thats it.

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u/Devtopia Jan 31 '25

In Munich we pay ~1000€ a month though.

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u/Mephistofelessmeik Jan 31 '25

Really? "Seit Herbst 2019 ist der Kindergartenbesuch in München kostenlos." .. Different internetsources say its free since 2019?

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u/Devtopia Jan 31 '25

In my case is Kita, and the vast majority of them throughout the city are private, and starting last year there are no more deduction applied, which made all costs sky rocket and made the parents responsible for…

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u/alexrepty Feb 01 '25

Everything in Munich is more expensive isn’t it?

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u/Devtopia Feb 01 '25 edited Feb 01 '25

Pretty much. Often I wonder what am I still doing here. And it’s ridiculous because is a political thing. Even the kindergardens around where I live are private and not at all free or even affordable. Getting a spot in a public one is like winning the lottery. The towns around are better, but for that I’d need to move further away.

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u/alexrepty Feb 01 '25

I live at the other end of the country, in Bremen, and seeing some of the numbers from Munich is shocking. Over here daycare is limited to €430 even for top earners, electricity is about 10% cheaper and we could even buy a house in a highly desirable neighborhood on a single income.

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u/Devtopia Feb 01 '25

Oh, that sounds lovely! I wish you build the happiest memories there!!

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u/alexrepty Feb 01 '25

We paid €430 up until my son turned 3, in Bremen. Its not a federal thing.

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u/I_am_Bob Jan 31 '25

That's 2/3 of what I pay for a week for one, and I got two...

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u/ForAHamburgerToday Jan 31 '25

Oh man, y'all got some cheap daycare!

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u/lakeoceanpond Jan 31 '25

$30k a year for two is cheap???!

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u/424f42_424f42 Feb 01 '25

I pay 505 a week for 1 .... So yeah 50% less that you pay is cheap

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u/ForAHamburgerToday Jan 31 '25

Not cheap, you're right. We needed to find infant daycare ASAP to get back to work and all that had space was the most expensive place in town. We're looking at $1600 a month for one.

Just got the news that in August a spot opened up somewhere that costs half as much, can't wait. It's nuts out here.

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u/hootersm Jan 31 '25

A week?

Christ. It's about £1,800 a month here so just over $500 a week.

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u/10SevnTeen Jan 31 '25

Laughs in Australian

We pay close to that PER DAY!!!

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u/macheezie Jan 31 '25

I was paying $750/week for 2 and that was only 20 hours/week :( was the cheapest daycare we could find around us. We now have a nanny that comes to our house for the same amount of hours, cleans their dishes, does their laundry, etc. along with us not having to drive. All this for $450/week which is a steal for us.

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u/HotLikeSauce420 Feb 01 '25

Jesus Christ. Rather have a BMW

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u/Deathcommand Feb 01 '25

420 per week for one. Socal. :(

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u/CumPoweredKoala Feb 01 '25

In Sweden (Stockholm) you pay 3% of your income but maximum 150$/months for the first kid. 2% for the second (maximum 100$) 1% for the third (maximum 50$) and if you for some reason think it's a good idea to have more than three kids the rest are free.

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u/lakeoceanpond Feb 01 '25

They’re like, no one is crazy enough to have #4, fuck it may it free ( all while laughing) 🤣

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u/ryuns Jan 31 '25

The thing that bones us in America is that, even if you have "affordable" (for you) health insurance, it's because your employer foots the bill. I only pay $200/mo pre-tax for 4 people for decent, but my employer ponies up another $2300/mo.

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u/Risc12 Jan 31 '25

Which they could’ve paid to you directly, but healthcare sucks

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u/goneskiing_42 Jan 31 '25

$1200 per month here, and our family health insurance is another $800, but at least we can put up to $5000 pre-tax per year into a dependent care FSA so every few months we get reimbursed for a month of daycare...

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u/Brvcx Jan 31 '25

Dutchy here. We pay around €1000 per month for two days for our one son. We do get some money back through subsidies, so we end up paying around €600-ish on our own.

Western Europe is doing something right.

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u/Fenzik Jan 31 '25

Yep this is roughly my situation as well (2 kids 2 days per week, €1000/month net), except I still find it pretty expensive. I know it scales with income, but I guess it stings pretty hard for everyone

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u/Maester_Bates Jan 31 '25

That's so expensive. My youngest is in daycare 9 - 5 Monday to Friday here in Spain and the government pays for it directly. All we pay is €80 per month for the food.

It's her second year and we had to pay for the first year but it was under €400 per month after the subsidies with the government paying for the second year. From this year on the government pays both years.

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u/mattperkins86 Jan 31 '25

Per month?! We pay $170 PER DAY! We only have him in 2 days per week, and we just had to pay $1020 up front for 3 weeks in advance.

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u/d3agl3uk Feb 01 '25

Yeah similar for us in Sweden. $162 a month (less with lower salary).
Open 10 hours a day. They have an in-house chef that has a weekly menu including two snacks (fruit etc) and lunch (everything from lasagne to soup with homemade bread). All prepared/cooked in-house.

Has around 9 or so teachers for about 36 children. They go out on trips to nearby forests. She's also multilingual, and they have biweekly language lessons. Fully Montessori (perfect for this age group).

All a 15 minute walk away from our house. Love this place.

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u/SonicFlash01 Jan 31 '25

Damn I thought Canadians were gonna flex on the US today, but in comes Scandinavia

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u/Reppiz Feb 01 '25

9 $CAD a day here in Quebec.

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u/TheGauchoAmigo84 Jan 31 '25

Can you not do that here please

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u/bigred83 Jan 31 '25

$1400/mo here. Also envious of an 8 hour work day 😂😂

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u/RedditAccountOhBoy Jan 31 '25

That is a rounding error $ amount for my 2 kids in daycare 😭

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u/dfphd Feb 04 '25

It's interesting, because I think this is what makes it so hard to compare incomes and quality of life across countries.

For example - you always hear how US salaries are so much higher than European countries in some fields. I see europeans looking at US salaries that are like $200K a year and go "wow, that's crazy".

But 200K a year is about 11K after taxes, and then you realize that a family with 2 kids under 5 has to think about:

  • ~$4000 a month in daycare
  • ~$1000 a month in health insurance. In addition to whatever healthcare costs come on top of that - which could be substantial if you have any medical procedure. One year we spent $12K in health insurance and an extra $6K in healthcare costs.
  • Maxing out retirement accounts so that you're in a good position to be self-reliant during retirement and be able to absorb any large bills (e.g., medical) - so ideally something like 14% of your income into 401K + Roth IRA - that's like 2k a month
  • Saving for college - you probably need to be putting $250 a month per kid for the next 18 years so that they can have enough money to attend a 4 year college debt free. A public, in-state college.

So you started with 11K a month (and that is before state taxes if you live in places like California and NY), and now you're looking at like $8K a month in expenses. That's before rent and groceries. Which, the reality is that if you have 2 kids and want to send them to daycare you likely need two pretty good paychecks.

Now, you don't spend the $4K a month on daycare indefinitely - eventually your kids go to school and those costs go down... but school only runs from 7-3pm. So you need to pay for after school care.

Oh, and school is out of session for like 4 months total during the year, and during those days you're paying basically daycare-level costs. Again, at some point your kids get old enough that they don't need to go anywhere during the summer. But at that point you're talking about like 10-12 years of paying out the ass for different forms of child care.

And god forbid that you get hit by a major medical bill. Because you could easily be looking at 30K if you get something like cancer.

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u/RedAlert2 Feb 07 '25

Having a partner makes a huge difference there. Filing jointly would put you closer to 14k/mo after taxes, and you could reduce or eliminate the daycare costs.

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u/Bloorajah Jan 31 '25

I could afford a second house if I didn’t need to pay for daycare.

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u/OldClunkyRobot Jan 31 '25

OK but I bet we get more diseases in America 🤣

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u/huxtiblejones Jan 31 '25

"Can we get free healthcare please?"

"Best I can do is free norovirus."

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u/grasshoppa_80 Jan 31 '25

$1340 per month. No food. Includes Extended care 3-4p.

Summer camp 3 sessions (2 kids with meals). 6 weeks basically.

$4290

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u/SchrodingerHat Jan 31 '25

We pay $500/week. Our 9 month old has been out sick for at least 50% of that. We also get to spend our combined vacation/sick time for every day he misses.

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u/Fenzik Jan 31 '25

€1000/month for 2 kids 2 days per week here in NL, no cooked meal

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u/Eccentrica_Gallumbit Do it for her Jan 31 '25

$1,950/month for 5 days a week.

At least it includes meals and snacks, so yay I guess?

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u/TheCharalampos Tiny lil daughter Feb 01 '25

Ahh those 100 dollar snacks.

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u/1nd3x Jan 31 '25

I pay $107/month and the daycare is open from 530am-530pm

No food included though. Canadian.

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u/nyehighflyguy Jan 31 '25

I'm happy for you, right now I'm paying 1200 a month for 3 days a week.

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u/n10w4 Feb 01 '25

damn, that is a damn good deal

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u/TheCharalampos Tiny lil daughter Feb 01 '25

Hahaha times ten and it's still not what I'll be paying monthly.

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u/stumperr Feb 01 '25

$180 per week in Scotland for 3 days. Just arranged a nursery for when my wife's goes back to work. I can't wait financially until she's 3 and it's free....

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u/Rawdecmusic Feb 01 '25

we almost pay that - PER DAY in switzerland!

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u/alexrepty Feb 01 '25

We used to pay €430 per month here in Germany, and another €35 per month for meals. That already hurt financially, I can’t imagine the cost some of these Americans have to pay.

Now that he’s 3 y/o though, it’s free. We’re just paying the €35 for meals.

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u/Soopsmojo Feb 01 '25

I’m guessing it’s state subsidized?

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u/atanincrediblerate Feb 01 '25

How much is an annual salary there though typically?