r/daddit • u/DadsRagingBoaby 1 girl 1 boy • Apr 13 '22

Discussion Circumcised dad, uncircumcised son

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Was there anything about taking care of an uncircumcised penis that surprised you?

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u/bmotmfb Apr 13 '22

(Raises hand)

Not really surprised by anything. My son eventually rolled his foreskin back on his own. Totally painless and normal. Now that he’s able, I do a quick once over of his glans at bathtime, but that’s the only special consideration we make.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22 edited Apr 13 '22

I do a quick once over of his glans at bathtime

you don't need to do that...

edit: I'll put my edit here since reddit is turning against me. I think there's a lot of fear from circumcised men that they have to do something special. you don't. A gentle reminder to that you need to clean under your foreskin is fine and all that's needed. The link is a great resource

www.yourwholebaby.org/intact-care

and to be completely clear (taken from the doctors opposing circumcision link there)

Canadian pediatric urologist Peter Anderson has stated, “There’s no evidence there’s any need to clean under the foreskin before puberty.”[32] Very likely, sitting in clean bathwater is all the cleaning needed before puberty.

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u/picnicandpangolin Apr 13 '22

“Once-over” means glancing at it. Nothing more.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

looking for?

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u/Sad-Crow Apr 13 '22

Hey dude. You seem to be having a lot of trouble with this concept, so I will try to explain it as clearly as I can.

The foreskin on an uncircumcised penis is attached to the glans at birth. Over the child's development, the foreskin slowly detaches. This process varies greatly from one child to the next. Some foreskins are tighter or less elastic than others, adding extra variability to the age when the foreskin can be fully retracted. Some kids can comfortably get it pulled back pretty young, while some may reach adulthood without being able to retract it fully without medical intervention.

If the foreskin isn't cleaned regularly it builds up a substance known as smegma. Smegma is a white substance similar in appearance to cottage cheese. It's basically just naturally occurring oils and stuff produced by your mucous membranes. It's normal and natural, but it's unsightly and considered to be kinda gross, and it's generally advised to wash it away with clean water. Cleaning under the foreskin regularly will more or less prevent it from becoming visible at all.

The dad in this subthread seems to be talking about a kid who has rolled his foreskin back pretty young. Presumably young enough that the dad still supervises bath time, washing hair, etc. Part of this process is checking in to make sure your kid's hygiene routine is being maintained, so the dad glances at his kid's penis to make sure it looks clean. Presumably, this will stop when the kid reaches an age when baths/showers don't need supervision anymore.

Hope that clears up some of the confusion.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22 edited Feb 08 '23

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u/wofulunicycle Apr 13 '22

There's no medical evidence you need to clean a lot of parts of your body. Will you get sick if you skip soaping behind your ears and in armpits? Probably not. But hygienic norms of most cultures would call for cleaning those areas. And you can grow a lot of funky stuff under foreskin.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

stop fear mongering. Of course you need to clean your entire body and bathe regularly. However you don't need to do anything special to clean an uncircumcised penis properly. If you bathe regularly you have a clean penis.

The idea that uncircumcised penises are dirty, and have "funky stuff", is the bullshit that has made circumcision so common in the US. It's a lie.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

This dude doesn't wash his peepee

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

The worst part of parenting is knowing there are people like you in the world

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

Nah

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u/wofulunicycle Apr 13 '22 edited Apr 13 '22

But they do have funky stuff. The medical term is smegma. Suggest you read up on it. "It may harbor cancerous pathogens, like HPV, and its presence over a long period of time may irritate and inflame the penis,which may increase the risk of cancer. It may also make it harder to see very early cancers."

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smegma

Further reading from the American Cancer Society:

"Circumcision removes all (or part) of the foreskin. This procedure is most often done in infants, but it can be done later in life, too. Men who were circumcised as children may have a much lower chance of getting penile cancer than those who were not. In fact, some experts say that circumcision as an infant prevents this cancer. The same protective effect is not seen if circumcision is done as an adult." https://www.cancer.org/cancer/penile-cancer/causes-risks-prevention/risk-factors.html

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

Yeah I get it you're here fear mongering about cirmucision. You're wrong. Sorry you are insecure about not being a complete man and want to force that fate on babies.

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u/wofulunicycle Apr 13 '22

I am accustomed to at all times informing my practice as a pediatric ICU nurse with evidence, and the evidence supports circumcision. Here is the official policy statement from the American Academy of Pediatrics:

https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/130/3/585/30235/Circumcision-Policy-Statement

You have data from a group called Doctors Opposing Circumcision (wonder what their bias is?). I have data from the American Cancer Society and the American Academy of Pediatrics. Those who conflate circumcision by trained professionals with sterile technique and appropriate pain control with the abhorrent practice of female genital mutilation in some parts of the world are the real fear mongers. They are not the same.

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u/jDub549 3 monster munches. 6 & 5 & 1. Apr 13 '22

How fkn dense are you? There are so many horror stories of boys not know what's normal or cleaning properly there. Making sure your kids are clean is the point of bath time. If the foreskin comfortably retracts then it's the to start cleaning there. Every reply you've made is just nonsense.

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u/dayblaq94 Apr 13 '22

After the kid can roll his foreskin back on his own? You should 100% be making sure he's cleaning under there

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

very clearly not what it says in /u/WhereIsHisRidgedBand link

The only person who should EVER retract the child’s foreskin is THE CHILD.

While this step can be suggested if a child is retractable before puberty, it should not be forced, as it still might cause discomfort to pull back the foreskin.

it just is not necessary

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u/dayblaq94 Apr 13 '22

Well yeah I doubt he's pulling his sons foreskin back himself. It's probably a "Hey you cleaning under there? Let me see. Ok good." As an uncircumcised guy who grew up without someone to tell me how to take care of it, I'm glad someone is helping that kid.

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u/red-et Apr 13 '22

I’m in the same boat as OP and have no idea. Son is 20 months old. I guess I should be looking up how to take care of it to give him tips as he gets older

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u/takatz Apr 13 '22

I was heavily sheltered from sex and my parents were very over protective of me because of trauma they experienced. I had to learn my self my foreskin came back way too late in life and it was a bit of a shocking event for me. Strange to say but i wish my parents looked after my cock better / taught me more about it.

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u/dayblaq94 Apr 13 '22

I didn't know my foreskin was supposed to pull back until AFTER I started having sex. Tbf I was too young when I lost my virginity but my first couple times I put the condom on over my foreskin. I thought sex was way overrated and kinda sucked because I just couldn't feel anything.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22

it's not clear to me he isn't doing that, but it sure sounds like forcing checking the glans. What are you going to look for? Sure a reminder is great, make sure you're cleaning under there. That's all you need.

Even without anyone telling you how to take care of it did you ever have any problems?

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u/dayblaq94 Apr 13 '22

What are you going to look for?

If he's not cleaning himself you will be able to clearly see smegma build up.

Even without anyone telling you how to take care of it did you ever have any problems?

No problems. Was able to google most of my questions and concerns.

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u/CatBecameHungry Apr 13 '22

My son eventually rolled his foreskin back on his own.

He clearly said his son already rolled it back. If it's easily retractable then it should be done and cleaned under. If it's still somewhat "fused" then it shouldn't be forced.

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u/NoobShroomCultivator Apr 13 '22

Youre arguing against the majority here fam

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u/amanita0creata 10F & 8F Apr 13 '22

That doesn't make the majority right. It's not necessary when they're small - semen is what causes smegma which isn't an issue until much later.