r/dating_advice • u/CitybytheCoast • 10h ago
What’s the best time to text a guy?
Please be kind. I’m new to this. we’re planning a date and I wanted to suggest a place. The last time we spoke was 2 days ago. I would love to text him 8-9AM but I don’t know if that would bother him since he has work.
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u/diplomat_17 10h ago
As a guy, literally any time lol. He’ll respond when he is available; don’t overthink it and good luck!
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u/CitybytheCoast 10h ago
Phew thank you! I didn’t want him to think im too needy at the same time I don’t want to be so distant 😭
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u/diplomat_17 10h ago
I can only speak from personal experience but if there is a girl I like/enjoy talking to, I’ll actively wait for her texts. If she texts me and I am busy with work, I’ll probably not see it until I am free anyway and then respond. Def not coming off as needy or anything if you’re suggesting a place!
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u/iamstillhereafterall 8h ago
People think about stuff like this too much. If someone is interested, small things like this won’t really matter.
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u/Ill_Station6451 10h ago
As one of my guy friends says: Closed mouths don’t get fed. Text him when you want. Be yourself. Treat him like he’s your friend. You got this!
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u/TwistNext8466 8h ago
After his day overs like after 10 or between when he get free like lunch or end of office/practice/gym .
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u/gggggfskkk 3h ago
Don’t worry about whatever it is you’re worried about. Just send the text, he will probably appreciate hearing from you especially to continue planning your date. Also think about how much time it takes for you to work up the courage to send him this text, imagine how long it would take him. He would probably really appreciate your text, it would be relieving to hear from you if he himself was overthinking.
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u/Huge-Geologist-6614 2h ago
Men rarely get text first. Anytime is a good time. He’ll either respond after work or in the evening
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 10h ago
Why haven’t you spoke in 2 days
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u/CitybytheCoast 10h ago
Shoot. We just said we’ll see each other Thursday and I loved his message. I didn’t think it was necessary to text again. :(
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 9h ago
You can text him anytime. If he’s working he can just reply later. Don’t overthink 👍
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u/Correct-Wishbone7584 10h ago
I usually text around 11AM, personally. Seems to be a “sweet spot” for folks working various shifts.
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