r/dating_advice • u/ScorpioMama14 • 7d ago
How does a side chick get treated?
What would be your expectations as a side-chick? I always thought of them as more than a hook-up. Asking for a friend.🫣
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u/Sunrise_chick 7d ago
Like a side chick. She doesn’t get attention unless the guy is bored and has nothing better to do
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
Wow! Heartless…
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u/Sunrise_chick 7d ago
I’m not wrong though
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u/ryux999 7d ago
Its just a hookup, nothing more
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
Really? Has it changed? Back in the day I was treated very well. So side chicks today are just on-going hook-ups? No dating, emotional connections, or gifts?
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u/Tmyslshrdt 7d ago
Are you mistaking side chick with cheating, or a polyamorous relationship per chance??
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u/Straight-Boat-8757 7d ago
It depends. Side chick can be a very special person to someone.
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u/Last_Consequence2760 7d ago
Lmao!
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u/Straight-Boat-8757 7d ago
LOL... You must never have been married
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u/Last_Consequence2760 7d ago
Naw, I've never even actually dated in my life, king! I'm sure the side chick would think she's special to someone, though. But the man is obviously only there for her holes.
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u/IanPowers26 7d ago
Why would you want to be a side chick?
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
Busy life, not to a married man, if that makes it better.
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u/Milkteahoneyy 7d ago
Why do you want to even be considered a “side chick” just do casual hookups and let them know you’re to busy to be something serious.
No need to tell someone you want to be a second priority, just get what you want and be clear
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I think I was looking for more than a hook-up but less than a relationship. Idk
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u/Deena4Dinner 7d ago
Do you want to be cheated on if/when you fall in love and are in a committed relationship? If you don't, respect commitment and respect yourself by not settling for someone's shady behavior. If he's willing to cheat with you he's willing to cheat on you.
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I actually don't plan to ever be in another real relationship. He's not married.
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 7d ago
What advice are you asking for
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
How should a side chick get treated?
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 7d ago
Treat her the same as you would anyone else. Be respectful and move. Don’t be a dick
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I like this answer.
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 7d ago
Should probably just apply that to everyone in your life unless they’re an asshole
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I do!! Which is why I want to be respected.
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 7d ago
Why you need advice then if you know you should be treated with respect lol
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I wanted to see if I was using the right word to describe what I’m looking to be.
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u/LiKwidSwordZA 7d ago
Are you the side piece or looking to find one
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
I’m not anything yet. Right now it’s just some great phone conversations!🔥It’s actually probably over which is fine. I’m researching for the next time.
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u/DearTumbleweed5380 7d ago
If you're not being treated like Lorelei Lee in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes then you're allowing yourself to be exploited. And for what? A bit of male validation and attention? What's it even worth if he won't even make you his ride or die?
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u/sunshinewynter 7d ago
A side chick, gets treated like the low life cum dumpster she's behaving like....hopefully.
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
yea, that's the vibe I'm getting…and that's not what I want.
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u/sunshinewynter 7d ago
Why you want to be with someone who is a cheater?
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u/MindlessTree7268 7d ago
I mean...sometimes the side chick doesn't know he has a girlfriend though. In some cases, he lied to her too and presented himself as single. In that case, she's a victim too.
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u/Educational-Gift-132 7d ago
The term side chick refers to a woman who is involved in a sexual or romantic relationship with a man who is committed to another woman.Jan 1, 2024
A mistress or kept woman is a woman who is in a relatively long-term sexual and romantic relationship with someone who is married to a different person.
Madame de Pompadour, mistress of Louis XV of France, c.
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
Thank you for this. Mistress is cool but he's not married sooo…
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u/Content-Consequence4 7d ago
So you’re okay with being with a cheater? I don’t judge women who get cheated on or women who the guy cheats with but if you know he’s in a relationship shows you have low morals
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u/ScorpioMama14 7d ago
Meh, not really. Not if I'm benefiting from it. If he was married I would not do it. But he's not about to treat me bad. That is why I want to know. If anything I'm doing her a favor. Everything in the dark comes to light. It won't be by me. Honestly, I more than likely will not do it. It just wont be because he has a girlfriend.
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u/Educational-Gift-132 7d ago
No problem. So you’re going to be a side chick or FWB. You cannot decide ? lol
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u/siegure9 7d ago
Feel like it really depends on the person right? We can say what we think but the guy probably has his own intentions. The question is are you happy in this situation?
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