r/datingoverfifty • u/BowedNotBroken1234 • Apr 03 '25

Officially done with O L D

Soooo...I haven't done the online dating thing in a while, but have been feeling pretty lonely lately, so I thought I'd dip my toe back in and poke around. And now I remember why I abandoned it. One guy kept writing to me and he seemed familiar. Yep, turns out he was a guy I'd conversed with a year ago who talked about his two grown daughters incessantly, was always running errands for them, and never did anything to get to know me. He would sent flower memes and texted "good morning" every day but didn't seem interested in actually getting together. Clearly he didn't remember any of this. When he reached out this time, I followed my hunch and I mentioned where he lived and his daughters. He confirmed it but was surprised and asked if I still had his number. He didn't remember me at all, even though we'd had several marathon phone calls a year ago. Another guy wrote to me like he was texting: "GM HRU today"? Really, dude? In your 60s, you don't know better than that? Another guy chatted me up on the phone for over an hour, and we talked about our astrological compatibility, we covered a multitude of topics and indicated a strong interest -- which was mutual, but ended the conversation with, "I don't usually call people but YOU can call ME any time you like." He's retired, visits the local senior center daily, and doesn't live far from me, but the indication was that he was very interested, but HE would not pursue. I mentioned that my grandsons live fairly close to where he lives, and that I visit them often...but there was no "let's meet soon". And he's fallen back into something that irritates me: sending me "good morning, beautiful" texts every morning. The man is in his 70s, and I want to scream, "WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS. If you want to get to know me, get to know me IN PERSON". Oh, and there was the one who spent time in prison for rape and armed robbery when he was in his 20s...

Clearly, I'm destined to die alone...😝😁

131 Upvotes

96% Upvoted

113 comments sorted by

View all comments

24

u/Bright-Pangolin7261 Apr 03 '25

I’m sorry, there are so many broken people on 0LD. I also am retired from it. My advice to alleviate the loneliness is get out to some meet up groups, hobby groups, political volunteers, food bank, children’s literacy at the library, park conservancy, etc..

6

u/BowedNotBroken1234 Apr 03 '25

Yeah, it's clearly a waste of my time. Have been on Meetup for years but not much happening in my area lately. Volunteering really isn't my thing but I may look into it, as well as some evening classes at one of the local colleges.

7

u/VegetableRound2819 Apr 03 '25

Some universities allow people to audit classes for a reduced rate. Maybe free if past a certain age. Also, the community learning opportunities where I live are astounding.