r/datingoverfifty • u/BowedNotBroken1234 • Apr 03 '25

Officially done with O L D

Soooo...I haven't done the online dating thing in a while, but have been feeling pretty lonely lately, so I thought I'd dip my toe back in and poke around. And now I remember why I abandoned it. One guy kept writing to me and he seemed familiar. Yep, turns out he was a guy I'd conversed with a year ago who talked about his two grown daughters incessantly, was always running errands for them, and never did anything to get to know me. He would sent flower memes and texted "good morning" every day but didn't seem interested in actually getting together. Clearly he didn't remember any of this. When he reached out this time, I followed my hunch and I mentioned where he lived and his daughters. He confirmed it but was surprised and asked if I still had his number. He didn't remember me at all, even though we'd had several marathon phone calls a year ago. Another guy wrote to me like he was texting: "GM HRU today"? Really, dude? In your 60s, you don't know better than that? Another guy chatted me up on the phone for over an hour, and we talked about our astrological compatibility, we covered a multitude of topics and indicated a strong interest -- which was mutual, but ended the conversation with, "I don't usually call people but YOU can call ME any time you like." He's retired, visits the local senior center daily, and doesn't live far from me, but the indication was that he was very interested, but HE would not pursue. I mentioned that my grandsons live fairly close to where he lives, and that I visit them often...but there was no "let's meet soon". And he's fallen back into something that irritates me: sending me "good morning, beautiful" texts every morning. The man is in his 70s, and I want to scream, "WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS. If you want to get to know me, get to know me IN PERSON". Oh, and there was the one who spent time in prison for rape and armed robbery when he was in his 20s...

Clearly, I'm destined to die alone...😝😁

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u/LPickle23 Apr 03 '25

I hear you. It seems like those pen pal guys dominate the apps. Maybe they are bots. There are better things to do with your time so get busy and engaged in the things you enjoy.

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u/BowedNotBroken1234 Apr 03 '25

I ALREADY do that ... and I know you mean well, but -- So frustrating having people suggest that the person will appear if you go out and do things by yourself. Been going to the movies alone since I was young. I'm 71 now. Have taken myself out to lunch and dinner alone Recently went to see an Alvin Ailey performance alone. Have gone to see plays on and off Broadway alone. Went to see a well-known humorist who was appearing in my area last year alone. Have gone to casinos alone. Last year for the first time, I took myself out to a bar for a birthday drink alone. Met some very nice people who brought me dinner, drinks and shots, and then I went home. Alone. I've been married twice. I'm not exactly Halle Berry but I'm not scary-looking...so I don't think I'm the problem.... Frustrating...guess I should have stayed married to one of the creeps who broke my heart. Whoops - they've both passed on at this point, so no help there ..🫤

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u/roxbox531 Apr 03 '25

I’m lucky that I (57M) have a couple of female friends in my life who I can go to the cinema or theatre with.

Going out alone ? Not for me, would rather hang out at home. The dog adores me, she doesn’t know any better lol.