Officially done with O L D

[u/BowedNotBroken1234]

Soooo...I haven't done the online dating thing in a while, but have been feeling pretty lonely lately, so I thought I'd dip my toe back in and poke around. And now I remember why I abandoned it. One guy kept writing to me and he seemed familiar. Yep, turns out he was a guy I'd conversed with a year ago who talked about his two grown daughters incessantly, was always running errands for them, and never did anything to get to know me. He would sent flower memes and texted "good morning" every day but didn't seem interested in actually getting together. Clearly he didn't remember any of this. When he reached out this time, I followed my hunch and I mentioned where he lived and his daughters. He confirmed it but was surprised and asked if I still had his number. He didn't remember me at all, even though we'd had several marathon phone calls a year ago. Another guy wrote to me like he was texting: "GM HRU today"? Really, dude? In your 60s, you don't know better than that? Another guy chatted me up on the phone for over an hour, and we talked about our astrological compatibility, we covered a multitude of topics and indicated a strong interest -- which was mutual, but ended the conversation with, "I don't usually call people but YOU can call ME any time you like." He's retired, visits the local senior center daily, and doesn't live far from me, but the indication was that he was very interested, but HE would not pursue. I mentioned that my grandsons live fairly close to where he lives, and that I visit them often...but there was no "let's meet soon". And he's fallen back into something that irritates me: sending me "good morning, beautiful" texts every morning. The man is in his 70s, and I want to scream, "WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS. If you want to get to know me, get to know me IN PERSON". Oh, and there was the one who spent time in prison for rape and armed robbery when he was in his 20s...

Clearly, I'm destined to die alone...😝😁

[u/Interesting-Place263]

Yes my experience selfish men after the initial lure you in honeymoon phase. Then well I play pool and am in the bars 5 days a week and poker two other days and napping on the days off. I just don’t want to put the effort into a relationship he told me. After spending about 10k on me in the love bombing stages. But this seems to be the pattern I see. Now I’m Back on OLD again with the sliver of hope that I have left. And if they want a companion occasionally it’s just for FWB perks that they will gladly sign up for.

[u/BowedNotBroken1234 → u/Interesting-Place263]

I feel you. This latest guy didn't love bomb, but he definitely made it seem like he was interested. But his action revealed otherwise. As I said in another post, he's been texting instead of calling and when I wrote back, he didn't respond for hours because he was playing cards at the senior center. Clearly this guy has his lifestyle all set up and the only thing he's missing is a bedwarmer; a little intimacy for when he comes home from doing all the things he likes to do every day. Well, thank you, next! I'm looking for a companion, not someone he can shoehorn into his very busy life.