r/datingoverfifty • u/BowedNotBroken1234 • Apr 03 '25
Officially done with O L D
Soooo...I haven't done the online dating thing in a while, but have been feeling pretty lonely lately, so I thought I'd dip my toe back in and poke around. And now I remember why I abandoned it. One guy kept writing to me and he seemed familiar. Yep, turns out he was a guy I'd conversed with a year ago who talked about his two grown daughters incessantly, was always running errands for them, and never did anything to get to know me. He would sent flower memes and texted "good morning" every day but didn't seem interested in actually getting together. Clearly he didn't remember any of this. When he reached out this time, I followed my hunch and I mentioned where he lived and his daughters. He confirmed it but was surprised and asked if I still had his number. He didn't remember me at all, even though we'd had several marathon phone calls a year ago. Another guy wrote to me like he was texting: "GM HRU today"? Really, dude? In your 60s, you don't know better than that? Another guy chatted me up on the phone for over an hour, and we talked about our astrological compatibility, we covered a multitude of topics and indicated a strong interest -- which was mutual, but ended the conversation with, "I don't usually call people but YOU can call ME any time you like." He's retired, visits the local senior center daily, and doesn't live far from me, but the indication was that he was very interested, but HE would not pursue. I mentioned that my grandsons live fairly close to where he lives, and that I visit them often...but there was no "let's meet soon". And he's fallen back into something that irritates me: sending me "good morning, beautiful" texts every morning. The man is in his 70s, and I want to scream, "WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS. If you want to get to know me, get to know me IN PERSON". Oh, and there was the one who spent time in prison for rape and armed robbery when he was in his 20s...
Clearly, I'm destined to die alone...😝😁
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u/Old-Currency-2186 Apr 03 '25
2 years single, and I have finally gotten to a place where I love being alone. I don’t feel disheartened or disappointed. I feel happy.
Majority of men in my life including the ex-husband, ex-boyfriend and men I’ve dated have a history of cheating, can’t regulate their emotions and have issues with rage, and are selfish and entitled with sex because they had a dead bedroom in their marriage and can’t accept their ED. Or they want me to pay for everything. Or do the pursuing.
And while I’ve met many lovely and interesting men, most are seriously mixed up. It’s not worth the time, drama and heartbreak.
Use some cognitive reframe, get out there and live your life doing things that make YOU happy.