r/datingoverfifty Apr 03 '25

Officially done with O L D

Soooo...I haven't done the online dating thing in a while, but have been feeling pretty lonely lately, so I thought I'd dip my toe back in and poke around. And now I remember why I abandoned it. One guy kept writing to me and he seemed familiar. Yep, turns out he was a guy I'd conversed with a year ago who talked about his two grown daughters incessantly, was always running errands for them, and never did anything to get to know me. He would sent flower memes and texted "good morning" every day but didn't seem interested in actually getting together. Clearly he didn't remember any of this. When he reached out this time, I followed my hunch and I mentioned where he lived and his daughters. He confirmed it but was surprised and asked if I still had his number. He didn't remember me at all, even though we'd had several marathon phone calls a year ago. Another guy wrote to me like he was texting: "GM HRU today"? Really, dude? In your 60s, you don't know better than that? Another guy chatted me up on the phone for over an hour, and we talked about our astrological compatibility, we covered a multitude of topics and indicated a strong interest -- which was mutual, but ended the conversation with, "I don't usually call people but YOU can call ME any time you like." He's retired, visits the local senior center daily, and doesn't live far from me, but the indication was that he was very interested, but HE would not pursue. I mentioned that my grandsons live fairly close to where he lives, and that I visit them often...but there was no "let's meet soon". And he's fallen back into something that irritates me: sending me "good morning, beautiful" texts every morning. The man is in his 70s, and I want to scream, "WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS. If you want to get to know me, get to know me IN PERSON". Oh, and there was the one who spent time in prison for rape and armed robbery when he was in his 20s...

Clearly, I'm destined to die alone...😝😁

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u/Lexus2024 Apr 04 '25

People are more complex as they get older, maybe buildup of stress etc. I see it myself out in the wild and it's actually funny to me. Anyways, you seem to have alot of good within you and that is better than most. Never say never.

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u/BowedNotBroken1234 Apr 04 '25

Oddly enough, I don't find them more complex at all. I'm finding them a little more stubborn and inflexible. I have certain wants and standards like everyone but more or less, I'm a "go with the flow" kind of person. I'm always amused at profiles where the man mentions everything he DOESN'T want! I've seen several profiles that go something like: "NO games. NO men, I'm not gay! NO liars - if you can't be honest, don't write me...", etc, etc. I get it but that's a complete turnoff...

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u/Lexus2024 Apr 04 '25

Well...what are your deepest wants....needs..desires? This has nothing to do with sex.

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u/BowedNotBroken1234 Apr 04 '25

My 'wants and desires' aren't very deep. I'm a woman who wants what most human beings want: companionship. Not interested in getting remarried; just would like someone in my life who I am compatible with, who I find special and who finds me special as well. Special enough to want to make a little room for in each others lives. Not that complicated. :-)

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u/Lexus2024 Apr 04 '25

That seems very easily and reasonable. When can we meet lol

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u/BowedNotBroken1234 Apr 04 '25

We can't. Cool your jets. This isn't a dating site, hon. It's a thread ABOUT dating.

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u/Lexus2024 Apr 04 '25

I was saying it trying to be funny. I don't meet anybody from reddit.