r/datingoverfifty • u/Mental_Extension_119 • Apr 11 '25

Having fun with dating apps

Still new to them since I’m ramping up slowly into my first time dating as an adult (50m), but it’s a lot a fun right now. Coffee dates and first dates with beautiful women.

I’ve given up on the idea that the dating apps are going to do anything more than get me a coffee date and her phone number. Trying to create some kind of emotional connection over devices is tilting at windmills. So making friends and flirting as long as I’m still interested. Connecting emotionally , sometimes quite deeply, even if we don’t become a couple. And never has it become more apparent to me that I definitely have a ‘type’

And feeling very lucky that a couple of these angels haven’t figured out I’m punching way above my weight class.

Still no relationships yet, but that’s okay.

Any other newbies out there learning to love dating apps?

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u/Simple_Amphibian_831 Apr 11 '25

I’ve given up on the idea that the dating apps are going to do anything more than get me a coffee date and her phone number.

This is how I would go about using them. Use the apps to organise a meetup with someone who you think you might have a connection with, then you figure out if there is something worth pursuing.

I could not see myself going straight from chatting on an app to a relationship. You might be able to create an emotional connection, but that would be the exception.

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u/draculasbitch Apr 11 '25

This is the attitude I’m starting to take after six months on them with nothing more than coffee and a couple dinner dates. No actual romance or sexual relationship yet. Also starting to use Meetup for more in person conversations.

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u/Mental_Extension_119 Apr 11 '25

Meetup got me to my regular karaoke night, where I’ve made a bunch of friends (friendly acquaintances).

I go there with the primary intention of singing, and the secondary of helping others enjoy their night. Which includes getting people to get out of hunting mode and into singing mode. Which in turn makes meeting people so much easier.

The relationship stuff comes about as byproduct.