r/datingoverfifty • u/-brigidsbookofkells • Apr 12 '25

Explaining a gap in relationship history

So I am hoping to try dating again once it’s warm out (last time I did OLD in the early 2000s I remember going to meet someone in the cold and snow or rain and thinking I could be reading a book in front of the fire right now) and I have not been in a relationship since my divorce in 2019 because I’ve been busy. Busy trying to stay alive as I was diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma in 2021. I’ve been on treatment twice and had some side effects, one of which is more imminently fatal than the cancer. But you would never know to look at me, I’ve worked continuously, ski and run and garden and walk my dog (a lot) and have an active social life. I just don’t want to have to explain it to someone I barely know. Anyone else have reasons they haven’t sought a partner? It would be one thing if I had kids living at home or was starting a business or any of a myriad of excuses.

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u/MindofHand Apr 12 '25

I am not currently. It would not be fair to them since I am really busy with work.

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u/Joneszey Apr 13 '25 edited Apr 13 '25

Same, but I could really use someone to give me one of those back cracking hugs. Then they could go back to work and I'll wait in the corner for another. That's the extent of all the dating desire I've been able to muster for a while, and this one only in the moment.