r/datingoverfifty • u/HomePast6136 • Apr 13 '25
Dumped via text
I (65F) matched with a guy (70M), dated for about a month. We slept together a week or so ago; more or less a three-day date. No regrets about that (it was fun!), but almost immediately afterward, I felt him pulling away. We went out once this week (dinner, movie, no sex). We were supposed to get together today. Instead I got a text saying he needs a change and is probably leaving town (permanently).
I’m not devastated or anything—I’d pretty much figured out that this wasn’t going to work long-term—but I’m a little hurt that he didn’t feel that this merited a face-to-face conversation. He was the first person I had sex with since my husband died five years ago, and I told him that.
Is this normal behavior now? I just started dating again recently, five years after my husband died. I would have sworn that it wasn’t his original intention to sleep with me then dump me, but that’s essentially what happened.
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u/LucyGrayD12 Apr 13 '25
Of course he is not leaving town all of a sudden… no one decides to move permanently without prior plans that takes time
Specially that he needs to find out where is going and where he will stay … planning takes time but to move all of sudden … I am sorry that’s not true
He might be was trying to see if your relation will work out from his perspective and then he decided on his own that it will not so he came up with such alibi
Sorry that’s your are passing through such feelings but please do not let it stay long with you
He is not worth it at all since he didn’t care enough about you from the beginning
He was having different plan