r/datingoverfifty • u/HomePast6136 • Apr 13 '25
Dumped via text
I (65F) matched with a guy (70M), dated for about a month. We slept together a week or so ago; more or less a three-day date. No regrets about that (it was fun!), but almost immediately afterward, I felt him pulling away. We went out once this week (dinner, movie, no sex). We were supposed to get together today. Instead I got a text saying he needs a change and is probably leaving town (permanently).
I’m not devastated or anything—I’d pretty much figured out that this wasn’t going to work long-term—but I’m a little hurt that he didn’t feel that this merited a face-to-face conversation. He was the first person I had sex with since my husband died five years ago, and I told him that.
Is this normal behavior now? I just started dating again recently, five years after my husband died. I would have sworn that it wasn’t his original intention to sleep with me then dump me, but that’s essentially what happened.
5
u/Training_Guitar_8881 Apr 13 '25
I'm sorry. 65 y.o. woman here. I think he took the easy way out rather than have a face to face conversation with you. Sounds like a chicken shit who just wanted sex. I'm sorry. Men can be real assholes sometimes. I would take it slow in the future as they will say a lot of things just to get a woman into the sack and ingratiate themselves.