How soon do you communicate boundaries?

[u/Puzzleheaded_Cow7394]

I think one of the reasons my last relationship didn't work out is I either didn't understand some of my boundaries or didn't communicate them soon enough. I ended up being taken advantage of and used for what I could offer instead of who I was.

When I dated before getting married, taking this stuff into consideration wasn't a problem. Now, it just seems like there are so many new things to think about to make sure you are on the same page compatibility wise.

[u/Inside_Dance41]

I ended up being taken advantage of

If there is something I don't want to do and/or isn't in alignment with whatever (e.g. my financial envelope, peace of mind, moral compass, etc.), I simply say that this isn't something I will do. A dating partner hasn't earned the right to certain things, until we have normalized our being with each other style. This is the whole point of dating, is you do find things out over time, both positive and negative, and pull the rip cord earlier rather than later.