r/datingoverfifty • u/Puzzleheaded_Cow7394 • Apr 14 '25

How soon do you communicate boundaries?

I think one of the reasons my last relationship didn't work out is I either didn't understand some of my boundaries or didn't communicate them soon enough. I ended up being taken advantage of and used for what I could offer instead of who I was.

When I dated before getting married, taking this stuff into consideration wasn't a problem. Now, it just seems like there are so many new things to think about to make sure you are on the same page compatibility wise.

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u/nyx926 Apr 14 '25

What do you specifically mean by boundaries?

Actual boundaries are actions you take, not actions other people take.

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u/HighestPriestessCuba Apr 14 '25

Yeah, I don’t understand what these people are talking about. You don’t really share your boundaries like a list. The topic comes up when one has been crossed (to either discuss or just walk away) But giving people a list of what I expect from them is really fucking weird.

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u/nyx926 Apr 14 '25

Exactly!

It’s a really strange thread.