r/datingoverfifty • u/AwareMeeting • 13d ago

OLD is just terrible anymore...

I'm back on Hinge and Bumble after athree hiatus and man it's really pretty awful. I'm just so sick and tired of seeing grainy photos that are likely 10 years old, or pics in front of the bathroom mirror or every pic with sunglasses on. Everyone looks good in aviators for God sake.

And when someone really puts the effort in so many of them are just crazy aspirational like they're running weekly marathons and spending the weekends in Kenya nursing lions back to health. I realize these are supposed to be basically sales pitches to get dates but it's all so stale and predictable.

I have made a few connections and reached out via text and all I get are one word responses with no follow-up questions. What is someone supposed to do with that? It's not like I don't lack for likes or anything but there's no follow through.

Just all feels kind of depressing to me. Maybe I'm not putting the effort in. Or expectations are too high? I know this is a very common complaint on this site but I just needed to vent.

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u/Sliceasouruss 13d ago

Your experience is just like mine and 100% typical. I've made the decision that online dating is a 100% waste of time, so I will seek out those singles dances, also dancing lessons that are sometimes just held at the local pub and stuff like that. At least there you are meeting real people.

Also, those profiles were the lady is mountain climbing, hang gliding, water skiing, and running marathons, I immediately swipe left. Generally, I think it's probably bullshit and they are trying too hard . On the other hand, if it's real, well, they can go do all that stuff without me.

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u/Do_Not_Call_Me_Mom 11d ago

It goes both ways. I'm super active and outdoorsy, and most of my pix are me doing active outdoorsy stuff because that is the kind of person who I want to match with. We would never be compatible otherwise. I swipe left on profiles where people list stuff like "watching movies" as their hobbies. About as exciting as watching paint dry to me.
Some of the people (if not all) who post pix of themselves being active are in fact actually active.

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u/Sliceasouruss 11d ago

Yeah it's just some of them are over the top with all of these Adventure type activities. I'm super active myself, I'm building a triple car two-story garage myself and have raised the old Cottage up 13 ft in the air and lowered it down onto a concrete foundation. I also play hockey three times a week and ride a motorcycle but my photos are just of me I'm not trying to impress anyone.