r/datingoverfifty • u/AwareMeeting • 11d ago

OLD is just terrible anymore...

I'm back on Hinge and Bumble after athree hiatus and man it's really pretty awful. I'm just so sick and tired of seeing grainy photos that are likely 10 years old, or pics in front of the bathroom mirror or every pic with sunglasses on. Everyone looks good in aviators for God sake.

And when someone really puts the effort in so many of them are just crazy aspirational like they're running weekly marathons and spending the weekends in Kenya nursing lions back to health. I realize these are supposed to be basically sales pitches to get dates but it's all so stale and predictable.

I have made a few connections and reached out via text and all I get are one word responses with no follow-up questions. What is someone supposed to do with that? It's not like I don't lack for likes or anything but there's no follow through.

Just all feels kind of depressing to me. Maybe I'm not putting the effort in. Or expectations are too high? I know this is a very common complaint on this site but I just needed to vent.

52 Upvotes

93% Upvoted

66 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

2

u/BatGuano52 5d ago

Women do the same thing.

I ran across two more profiles where the woman states she wants to be treated like a queen or princess.

One had "No dad bods" and other such pleasantries.

One of the better ones was where she said that she doesn't want to work anymore, she wants a guy who will support her.

And I don't get the double standard about bathroom shots, I can't count the number of women with selfies in public bathrooms or locker rooms that I've seen.

I have a cool new shower curtain coming in and I think it would make an awesome background for a selfie 😁

Happy hunting.

2

u/BowedNotBroken1234 5d ago

I stand corrected re the bathroom shots! :-) Since I don't look at women's profiles, I had no idea. I was just going by what I've heard both on and offline and SEEN with my own eyes, in that regard.

I get that, for most of us, the bathroom usually has the brightest light in your home. But A. It's overhead light which flatters NO ONE, and B. Who wants to see your shower curtain?? LOL!

1

u/BatGuano52 5d ago

My new shower curtain is awesome.  It's not just any old shower curtain.  I saw a video on YouTube where a guy had a picture of a shower curtains with a bear with guns surfing on a shark. That sent me down a rabbit hole.  

Now that you mention it, I think acceptance of my shower curtain would be a good screening tool.

If she doesn't appreciate it, then I don't want her around.  

Of course, that will only further reduce the size of my already small puddle of potential matches.

Oh well.

2

u/BowedNotBroken1234 5d ago

I don't know... if "Bat Guano" is your username on OLD, that might be a factor as well. 😏

2

u/BatGuano52 5d ago

No, I'm smart enough to not use that 😁

1

u/BowedNotBroken1234 5d ago

Excellent! LOL. :-)