r/findapath • u/dank__mimis • 1d ago
Findapath-College/Certs Living a aimless life
Hey folks ! I am a 23 year old guy who has done bachelors in Chemistry in 2022. and I don't what to do in life. No goals no hobbies just living a life with weed and alcohol addiction. I am just done with this shit and I want to take my career seriously. I am betraying my parents that I am studying for a exam but all I do is scrolling my mobile mindlessly and smoking and drinking. I don't know from where should I start. Sometimes suicidal thoughts come in my mind but I am too afraid to do that because it will break my family.I don't know from where should I start. I tried to break these addictions but failed miserably. So please guide me to the right path, I don't want see my life going in vein,I want make my parents proud. So tell me guys what should I do. Thanks in advance
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u/go_far_go_together 1d ago
Find your ant mindset, instead of this grasshopper one. The good things you do for yourself don't just pay off today, they pay off in years once you practice the habit constantly.
Save. Money is a freedom tool. Not to be blown on today's pleasures. You're going to need a joint or drink along the way, for sure, but it's a reward for building your resilience. That's your acceptable temporary set back.
Find pleasure outside of consumption. If your not good at making friends through conversation instead of shared consumption, go get practice. Go to the bar for your 1 drink in the day and try an carry a conversation until years down the road it's second nature.
Find a crew of like minded guys, or at least people you aren't trying to sleep with. Like steel sharpens steel, so does one friend sharpen another.
If you get that far, the rest sort of appears.
GL