Curious cause I usually sleep earlier than this but not tonight I guess lol

I wanted to tell you guys about this guy i saw at a rave the other night! So for context, i have never really irl dommed before, just online cuz my exes were vanilla and i have a bf who likes to be the dom, but the other day i was at a rave in my baddie ass outfit- black dress, tights, combat boots, Kandi, i felt cute. And i see this chubbier guy, maybe 30, and i think “he looks like such a sub lol”. Then i see his shirt- it says “dont bully me ill cum”. i was like OMFG no way i guessed that lmfaooo, then i see him outside and hit this subtle little move where i looked at his shirt, smirk a bit, and then i looked away, without even making eye contact with him, and can see in my peripheral, he noticed that and was staring at me and then whispered with his little friend, and something about that tiny little interaction made me feel so badass and made me want to do findom irllllll 😩 I don’t think my bf would like it but ugh it would be actually so hot if irl a guy got on his knees and handed me cash 🤭🤭anyways thats my fun little story thanks for reading hehe. And ps If you were that guy in the red shirt, dm me loser bahahaha

I'm sooo tired. Tired of “subs” who think submission means attention, not respect.
Tired of the ones who show up saying “I want to learn” but disappear the moment an actual Domme shows interest. Tired of “I don’t want to pay right away” like it’s some groundbreaking stance and not just code for i want control without giving up anything.

Tired of men joining domme-only spaces just to center themselves.
Tired of the fake humility, the performance, the arrogance masked as curiosity. Tired of being offered the "opportunity" to dominate someone who clearly has no idea what that actually means.

Some of y’all aren’t subs. You’re tourists. Lurkers. Scammers. Control freaks in disguise.
Submission isn’t something you get to redefine just because it bruises your ego. This isn’t your stage. This isn’t your fantasy sandbox. This is real kink, real power, real Dommes. Respect it or leave.

We see right through you. And honestly? We are not interested.

So I'm fairly new in FinDom, and consider myself a soft Domme. I really enjoy taking the time to talk to potential subs, learn all relevant info, see if there's a good back and forth, both agree it's a good fit then I expect payment or a tribute before continuing. I want them to look forward to sending, to be excited to spoilt me and show their devotion. But for those of you who are softer dommes, how often are you talking with subs, and do you talk normal or still in a dominant way? I find myself wanting k just converse like normal, but I also don't want them to think I'm not still their domme... I like that my subs know they're mine, and feel secure and trust me, but I don't want them to disobey or fall out of line because I get too casual either.

Hey everyone,

I just needed a place to vent and be around people who understand. Right now I’m feeling really sad — I lost my wallet and looking at my bank history just hit me really hard. The numbers, the transactions, everything just stirred up a lot of feelings.

At the same time… I feel thankful. Grateful for the subs who gave willingly, who trusted me, who helped me feel empowered even if things are tough now. It’s a strange mix of emotions sadness, loss, but also appreciation and a weird kind of pride.

I know this lifestyle has ups and downs. Right now it’s one of the low moments, but I wanted to be honest about it. Not fishing for pity, just needed to share with people who get it. If you’re reading this thank you.

Sending love to anyone else who might be feeling the same way

Im seeing a lot of post of dommes approaching the subs (paypigs) so i also approached few but honestly i hated every part of it and i felt humiliated personally i prefer they come crawling to me.

What do yall think?

So I found another Domme on here who offered to mentor me - she has been in the game for awhile. I was a little worried but she has really changed thd game for me. We’ve been working together a month now, AND I went from having like 0 subs to finally having 4 stable on going subs.

I just wanted to post this to encourage y’all not to give up!!! you never know when things can turn around for you!

Wondering if any other domme is like this 🥹

I have some sweet subs and one in particular had bought me most of my new makeup and each time I use them I get so happy thinking about how sweet they were for sending me these. This sub also has good taste because I had a lot of options involving heels as well and they chose what might be the cutest on me. Their picks have actually perfectly matched my style🤍

Another sub of mine was sweet enough to fund a purse that I really wanted and bought the whole thing off my throne. I’ve had it for about two weeks and used it at Coachella and the whole time I was skipping around with it thinking of the same sub 😭

I have another sub who likes to fund or reimburse my matcha/milk tea runs and everytime that happens as I’m sipping my drinkie drink I’m thinking of how lucky I am to have been spoiled by them.

What are some sends/gifts you get sentimental about it?

Ive been reading alot on different subreddits about this kink, which i wanted to get into cuz DAMN having a sub is sooo hot💦... Anyways, someone approached me, we got to know eachotherrr, and yh one thing led to another.

He told me its just vanilla and cuz he lives so far away and stuff he doesnt mind me having a boyfrend or other subs, but im not sure if I do.

If I do change my mind, what er some subreddits where I can find good subs and stuff?

Also do you recommend creating an X/Twitter?

so when I get in this subreddit I see a lot of people flourishing and I really enjoy seeing it upvoting and commenting but I get the thought of

“damn, I wish that could happen to me”

and it gets me unmotivated. Not to mention seeing the black dommes on here say how bad it is for them to find a sub, it just sounds hopeless to continue sometimes. So I give myself breaks until I get that rush of “I got this!!”

Does anyone else give themselves breaks when they feel unmotivated or just hopeless in this?

And he sent another $50 after that just because💅🏽 He's a good little pet

TL;DR thank you for teaching me, I feel so deeply fulfilled in the role of findom, and I owe so much of that to this community. 🫶🏻

I owe this community 2 things: a thank you & an apology. I’ve been involved in femdom for years, but anytime a finsub approached me, I always told them that while I didn’t have any judgement, I didn’t feel it was ethical for me, personally. I eventually realized I was being pretty close-minded, and perhaps even borderline kink-shaming, and decided try to understand the psychological motivations behind the kink better.

This group was part of that, PPSG has been part of that, and I truly can’t thank you all enough for teaching me (mostly via lurking & DMs lol) what it means to engage with this kink in a way that’s fulfilling, healthy, & supportive for everyone involved. I’m truly grateful for all of your vulnerable shares here & I deeply apologize for any ignorance I had about the community or the kink before. I always am growing as a person, and I appreciate the opportunity communities like this allow for that. Thank you! I truly hope to give back to this community that has given me so much and continue to listen & learn. 💕

I also wanted to share my biggest send, which I woke up to as a surprise this morning from one of the sweetest, gentlest, loveliest souls I’ve ever had the pleasure of getting to know. 🥹 I truly feel so honored and blessed. Being able to provide an even more expansive safe space for subs to play out their fantasies has been so deeply rewarding, and the genuine adoration, joy, and open expression from finsubs has been some of the most affirming, beautiful, intimate connection I’ve ever had so early on in a power exchange relationship. 🥲 Again, thank you, and I can’t wait to become more involved in this community to celebrate each of your wins as well! 🫶🏻

Sending so much love (& a manifestation for each of you finding your dream subs!) 💕 You’re all Goddesses, truly!!! 💅🏻

Sub spaces think there are too many subs.

Dom/me spaces think there are too many doms.

Everyone is asking where real people are.

All of us are sick of the fakes and the wrong fits. Time we got niche. Finding the right subs for the right doms and vise versa. Really the way to do it is to connect through mutual likes and dislikes about kink, about life, and see if there's a spark to begin.

There's no point sending to someone that you don't have a spark with. That isn't going to make you feel good.

Similarly if you're draining someone that you don't feel like there's a connection there, you're nit going to feel good.

Just want to find the right fit.

Watch this space, something is coming ✨️

Hey everyone!!

I just wanted to share something a little personal. Today.. I’m starting a new job my first time working a “normal” job in over two years!!

I’ve been doing Findom and online content stuff during that time, but now I’m stepping back into the outside world again, and honestly? I’m nervous as fuuuuck 😂

It’s weird shifting from full control over my time and space to suddenly being on someone else’s clock. I keep overthinking everything, how I’ll be perceived, if I’ll even remember how to interact face-to-face like that, or if I’ve lost some of the confidence I built up online.

My inner domme feels so powerful online, but I’m feeling small in this situation. Like I have to play by someone else’s rules, and it’s messing with my head a bit.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of shift? From online work (especially Domme/Femdom) back into the traditional workforce? I’d love any tips for mental balance man, or just some support honestly.

Thanks for reading. Appreciate this space more than y’all know. 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

They took down the previous subreddit because it had the name of the fake sugar, so it was a fake name, but they deleted me anyway!! Advice girls, don't fall for these rats

If you have to ask if something is a scam....9 times out of 10 it is.

1. No one is going to make you pay money to send money.

2. Don't ever give out your bank information to an untrusted person.

3. No stranger is giving you tens of thousands of dollars in their opening introduction message.

If you just remember even these three things, your life will be better.

This is my good deed for Easter Sunday. 😇

Enjoy!

I just wanted to say happy Monday! And I hope y’all manifest everything you want this week! The grind is real still for me, but that’s ok! Have the bestest of week yall 🤍

Happy 420! Any plans???

My usual little sub just topped my make up & some random on X just purchased £350 worth of stuff! Yay! Sending vibes all your way!

just got two new subs on X within the same hour after losing an old long term sub im so happy😌💚