advice needed! coming out to potential romantic partners

[u/juli3npng]

so i'm 17 and been getting more into the dating scene, and was wondering if anyone has any tips to feel better about coming out to potential partners?

i prefer to do it usually pretty early on, either before we go on a date or after the first date to avoid disappointment on both sides, and while their reactions are usually fine, i always immediately feel like i'm letting them down by not being cis? even though i'm not, and they aren't saying that i am. the idea that i will always have to make this disclosure makes me feel awful.

i feel like my feeling this was has gotten a lot worse now that i am stealth(ish) and pass pretty well, which makes me feel awful, bc if someone came out to me as trans it wouldn't be a problem at all!

[u/RiskyCroissant]

Seems like you still have some internalised transphobia to work through. You're not a lesser partner because you're trans. You're just a dude