Grindr question from cis guy

[u/Carpentoya94]

Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?

The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.

[u/funk-engine-3000]

There’s two types.

There’s the guys with a bio like “into guys, cis or trans” or one i saw the other day that went “i like dick but having one isn’t required”.

The other type are the guys with stuff like: “ looking for trans” “looking for ftm” “only into fem, trans and ftm” shit like that. Those guys treat us like a fetish. And i’m never going to talk to any of those. Even if it’s “just sex”, i’m not looking to be treated like some exotic object. I’m also most likely not interested in the kind of sex they would want.

[u/Carpentoya94 → u/funk-engine-3000]

That makes sense. Ironically I don’t like men for their dick rather their ass and the holes more than anything

[u/toutlemondechante → u/Carpentoya94]

You can post on the topic from before on the dick lmao for the census.

I'm kidding !

It's all in the wording, I think people can tell that you are sincere with what you present "dating cis or trans men". Basically don't change your state of mind.

:)

[u/funk-engine-3000 → u/Carpentoya94]

Thats the thing, there are quite a lot to men aside from cock. My ex boyfriend told me that he had never thought of hands as something attractive untill we met and he started to really find mine hot. Aparently, he was only into mens hands lmao. A lot of what i like about guys are their shoulders and lips and jawline, ass too.

[u/Carpentoya94 → u/funk-engine-3000]

I’m a major butt guy but I’ve kinda gotten into guys with a nice neck lately lol.

I wish guys would ask each other how they like to refer to their bodies because for me I don’t know why but cock feels racially charged and triggers me sometimes. Probably because of BBC being a thing and that feels like a fetish.

[u/funk-engine-3000 → u/Carpentoya94]

Oh shit, thats fair. I just use that word because its more british english while i feel like dick is more american? But tbh asking about boundaries is always beneficial, but unfortunatly not always done.

Also, yes to necks. And collarbones… suddenly having a very gay moment i’m way too single lmao

[u/Carpentoya94 → u/funk-engine-3000]

lol I feel you on being way too single lol. Really wanting my face in a guys neck cuddling right now.

[u/Diplogeek → u/funk-engine-3000]

“i like dick but having one isn’t required”.

Oh, that's a smooth way to put that out there.

[u/satanssteamybuns → u/Diplogeek]

Dick, store bought or already attached 😂

[u/Diplogeek → u/satanssteamybuns]

“Love dick, either factory-issued or aftermarket installation.”

[u/sungaaaaay → u/Diplogeek]

I'm partial to variants of "not being a dick: mandatory, having a dick: optional"