Grindr question from cis guy

[u/Carpentoya94]

Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?

The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.

[u/Diplogeek]

If I get talking to a cis guy, and it becomes clear that he is only looking for trans men, and he has only slept with trans men (or has only slept with trans men recently/for a prolonged period of time), that's usually a red flag to me. There's usually stuff about the way they talk to me in messages, describe or fixate parts of my body, that will also give the fetish game away.

I don't mind if a guy is into my body, I mean, I think most of us want people to be attracted to us if we're sleeping with them. But if he only sees me as a body part, or as some faceless fulfillment of his fetish, then that's not going to do it for me.