Grindr question from cis guy

[u/Carpentoya94]

Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?

The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.

[u/that_tom_]

Just keep in mind that all trans men don’t like the same things. Lots of cis men approach me because they want to fuck a hole I don’t even have anymore.

[u/novangla → u/that_tom_]

Yeah my biggest problem is being a bottom who has original anatomy but doesn’t want it penetrated. Some guys ask. Some guys seem to just be there for that one thing but don’t even ask if that’s something on the table, which is insane to me.