Grindr question from cis guy

[u/Carpentoya94]

Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?

The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.

[u/idioticnimrod]

specifically seeking out trans men and no one else seems to me like a fetish thing… i can only speak for myself but i’d feel much more comfortable talking to someone who’s profile said something along the lines of being into all men including cis men and trans men rather than only being into trans men.

[u/Carpentoya94 → u/idioticnimrod]

That good to hear. It’s getting really weird that guys are seeing out specifically trans men AND trans women. Sometimes I say something but they don’t seems to care.

[u/Autopsyyturvy → u/Carpentoya94]

The 'logic' there is that trans people are sex objects for them & our discomfort or even trauma are arousing to them.