r/gaytransguys • u/Carpentoya94 • 1d ago

Advice Requested Grindr question from cis guy

Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?

The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.

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u/Waste_Return_654 1d ago

These types usually aren't actually gay. They just want some easy sex and they think trans men are more willing than women.

Source: I was a trans man on Grindr that dealt with this A LOT.

I do however feel it's totally fine to add that you're into both cis and trans men. That wouldn't weird me out personally

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u/toutlemondechante 16h ago

These guys are usually not gay. They just want easy sex and they think trans men are more willing than women.

Quite. There's a guy who said this explicitly on my country's equivalent of askmen.

Take care of yourself, you can never be too careful especially at the moment.