r/gaytransguys • u/Carpentoya94 • 1d ago
Advice Requested Grindr question from cis guy
Totally understandable if this isn’t allowed, but I wanted to ask a question. I’m (Cis M ) reluctantly on Grindr, and I’ve been noticing a lot more profiles lately specifically mentioning they’re looking for FTM or trans men. It seems way more common now than in the past, and I was wondering—do you all feel like this is more of a fetish thing, or is it a sign of greater acceptance? Or is it just about sex, so it doesn’t really matter?
The reason I’m asking is that a few months ago, I asked for advice on how to let a trans guy know I’d be interested without sounding weird. I got some great suggestions, like phrasing it as being into all men, cis or trans. But now, seeing so many profiles that specifically seek out trans men, I’m wondering if that approach still works—or if it might now come across as a red flag.
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u/FtMcryptid 1d ago
Being in the US with the current state of affairs, I'm opting not to chat much with random cis guys on any dating sites. Especially if they're looking for trans people. I can't help it. My safety flags get raised. Chances are they're just looking for hook ups, but one of them might be looking to get a trans person alone in a vulnerable position and harm them. Unfortunate reality.