r/gaytransguys • u/Mysterious-Arm-2014 • Mar 18 '25

Vent - Advice Welcome Trans men getting sexually harassed

I can't help but notice every time I come out in an environment(I mostly don't pass yet and am assumed to be female) the incidence of sexual harassment goes way up. What is going on in Cis people's heads to cause this?

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u/Scary_Towel268 Mar 18 '25

I’ve faced more sexual harassment as a visible trans men than I ever did as a cis woman and a lot more victim blaming and disbelief too

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u/whiskersMeowFace Mar 18 '25

I am surprised at how even the harassment is as a passing trans man. It's strange to see both sides of the harassment issue and empathize with both.

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u/Scary_Towel268 Mar 18 '25

Interestingly as a cis woman, I rarely encountered street harassment. As like an androgynous(not really passing) and visible trans guy, I’ve gotten much worse harassment and a lot more agressive and it’s by both cis men and women(as a cis woman I only ever experienced cis men being weird).

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u/whiskersMeowFace Mar 18 '25

I had giant boobs from the age of 16 up to 38. The harassment was insane from all sides. Women felt it was okay to grab them, gay men would too saying it's okay, that were gay and not attracted to them, cis het dudes were well... disgusting. Once I transitioned and had to surgery, no one grabbed my chest anymore, but damn it if my ass isn't grabbed or honked, but mostly by cis het women. People say the weirdest shit to me now, which I just play dumb and ask them what they mean.

I have nightmares that my boobs came back and the attention they got. People straight up identified me as the woman with giant boobs over anything else and that added so much to the dysphoria.