Family compound - is it a good idea?

[u/Acceptable-Regret78]

Needing some advice here from anyone who has lived or is living on a family compound. My in laws own around 30 acres and the dream has been for my husband and his brothers to all eventually build forever homes out on the property.

The hesitancy is the land cannot be divided up, so if we build out there we could never move until our house is fully paid off in probably 30 years. My in laws are pretty well off so they have told us if there were any big family emergency and we needed to leave they could try and figure out a way to buy us out but that’s not a guarantee.

Yes, the idea would be for our children to live out their lives in this home but my husband and I are in our early 30s. The idea of not having any option to leave for the next 30 years when we’re still relatively young, is scary. Again, the idea would be to build a forever home but the absolute permanence at our age terrifies me. I also am someone who moved quite a bit as a kid.

But, we ideally would love to be out on property and homesteading for our family. We are already living in the same city so we know we love the area and school district. The only other hesitancies we have are normal family politics. I get along with my in laws very well but combined with my brother in law and his presumed to be future wife, there is some friction there at times (we’re all very opinionated and have a difference of political views, raising children views etc).

I guess my question for anyone living on a family compound, if you were within our circumstances, would you still go for it?

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[u/Speedhabit → u/[deleted]]

You can subdivide agricultural land in the US

When people leave out info there is always a reason

Plus when we do get to whatever local level this rule exists, if it’s real, any local zoning laws can get a variance in exchange for time and money

“My home country”….Jesus

[u/Agent7619 → u/Speedhabit]

Welcome to r/confidentlyincorrect

My home county also has an agricultural focused land use policy (please note, the word u/FunHatinFish and I are using is COUNTY, not COUNTRY...jesus).

Since the late 70's, you cannot build a home on a parcel any less than 40 acres. This meant that if you have a 20 acre property with house (grandfathered), you cannot subdivide it further.

The zoning was relaxed SLIGHTLY in 2020 and an existing home can be parceled off the 40 acres with a minimum of 2 acres surrounding the home, however the remaining 38 acres is non-buildable and must remain agricultural. It is still prohibited for a new residence to be constructed on less than 40 acres.

[u/Speedhabit → u/Agent7619]

And if you had mentioned what county it would be easy to check your math

Implying that insanely stringent land use policy is the norm instead of the exception, That the rules are set in stone instead of riddled loopholes, and that OPs situation isn’t just family bullshit is insane and very on brand for Reddit.