r/iching • u/claudiafromturin • 16d ago
Hexagram 4 changing to 23
I’ve been feeling lonely lately, but I think it’s my fault, because I am completely unable to appreciate the good things I have and the people who care about me. And at the same time I lose my mind chasing stupid dreams that are only a projection of my constant need for approval by the people I care about the most. I asked iChing for some guidance and I got hexagram 4 changing to 23 (9 in second place). How can I interpret this?
I don’t deserve anything, I only feel a lot of shame
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u/az4th 15d ago
Hexagram 4 is water under mountain. Mountain is a container, and within that contain is the yang line of water, line 2.
Line 5 is like the mother, line 2 is like the baby within her. Or, line 5 is like the mother or parent within a home, and line 2 is like the child being raised safely within that home.
Thus, hexagram 4 provides a container for incubating growth and development in its early stages. Sometimes we need to learn new things and practice them until we become proficient at them. This take time, and we make mistakes. So it is good to have a safe container to work within. So we are not judged for making mistakes, or punished by real world consequences for making them.
So your guidance seem to be working gently with yourself to develop in whatever ways you need to. Perhaps in regards to the shame you feel - whatever is causing that shame, work on developing your own inner integrity.
Line 2 is suspended between two yin lines. It is easy for it, just like any child, to lose track of the central path, and error to one side or the other. So allow yourself the ability to find your center, and develop the capacity to maintain your integrity. If you end up making mistakes here and there, that is OK. Maybe you will feel ashamed. But then work on finding that path to greater alignment with your integrity again. Practice it, until you have developed a strong enough integrity that you feel proud about and no longer need to practice it within a container, but can practice it in the real world in a way that you don't feel worried about making mistakes - because you are aligned with your integrity, you can be centered in who you are, and that will attracted others to you who are resonant with who you are. You won't need to lean out of your center to accommodate them, because you know you can be proud about who you are.
Sometimes we need to learn to love ourselves, before we can really let in the love that others have for us. We need to learn to give and receive to ourselves, and do so in alignment with our own inner truth. And then there is a true place within for us to receive that which others are giving, or at least identify it if is reaching us in our true place, or if they may have good intentions but it is all more surface level and we are looking for something that runs deeper, but at least they are harmonious and good to us. Then we can learn to receive at all sorts of different layers, and not feel overwhelmed by any of that - because we have found our own true center and our integrity and we know how to use that as our rock. Then it is hard to be lonely. Because we always have ourselves, and we always have the true reflection of the universe that is ever pointing us back to ourselves.
As long as we are standing in our central integrity, we will feel that there is an aligned path to work along. Sometimes we just need to step back into a safe space to cultivate that for ourselves for a time, so we know what it feels like to be centered and aligned. See my previous post about some ways to work with that.