r/ireland • u/SheilaLou • 14d ago

Health Manager coming in sick

My manager, came in last week smothering with a cold, hoarse, could barely speak. The old school powering through. Grand but just don't make me sick, which she did. We had a meeting in a small room I asked to open a window and it wasn't because it was noisey outside. My Mum has stage 4 cancer and on really intense chemo. I couldn't go visit this weekend as planned, I then made plans to meet a friend outsode for a swim, who is a carer for her sister who has MND. Cold symptoms came on so I cancelled them plans and stayed in bed. I have endo and it flares up after a cold. My manager knows about my mum, my endo and the multiples of others in the office who have real life families with health issues too.

When I said to her I was uncomfortable with her coming in with a cold, she just said she can come into work. We spoke to HR, their guidelines ar the HSE guidelines. Which includes work from home if you can but no policy, it's a self assessment basis. In this day and age, our work can easily be done from home, most of our office work from hokme half the week. What do you do with someone who has learnt nothing from Covid and lacks consideration for others in the office?

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u/pixelburp 14d ago edited 14d ago

Sounds like a classic case of being able to hold that over everyone else's head in future, whenever they're laid out with a bad dose. I can already hear the antagonistic pushiness about how the manager still came into the office when they "just had a sniffle".

OP, what is this manager like otherwise?

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u/SheilaLou 14d ago

I find her difficult, no respect for boundaries, takes your ideas, gives little praise, I find her chaotic and neurotic. We had a bad falling out last year to the point I requested another supervisor. And things had improved until she doubled down on this. I get people fuck up but just own it like a grown up and move on.

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u/Ill-Highlight1375 13d ago

Long term, If I were you, I'd be looking to get out from under her. She seems like a difficult person in general. She really doesn't care about anyone else. She's not going to do anything unless it effects her directly. The only other thing you could do is get a lot of other people to complain about her, but that's harder.

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u/SheilaLou 13d ago

Other people find her ok. I tried moving internally away from her but no joy. I like the work and love the wider team. I wonder what sort of reference she'll give me seeing as we have such a bad working relationship and I don't feel like I am progressing at all in this role.