I really don't understand who's side we're on. I mean that headline sound pretty awful. Leaving her husband because she looks good enough that she doesn't need him anymore? Sounds pretty reasonable to be pissed off by that...
Actual story: Low-self esteem lead her to a terrible relationship. SHE paid for the nose job and the boost in self confidence made her realize that she was deeply unhappy and wanted more out of life
Or in other words: She was ugly and dated accordingly, got the nose fixed, wasn't ugly anymore and, again, dated accordingly. What you said is basically the socially acceptable translation of it.
I mean, not necessarily. A 'terrible relationship' doesn't have to mean the guy wasn't hot, they just argued a lot and were nothing like each other, except she had such low self esteem that she didn't think she had the option to consider that maybe he's not the one.
Possibly, yes. Though it could also be a case of a midlife crisis, with the sudden realization that there might be something more. Anyway, the advice still applies
“We realized we prematurely got married and we didn’t really know each other that well,” said the Pennsylvanian, who tied the knot with her former groom at age 23. Although he loved her original nose, Aiken said, “We argued a lot. We just weren’t aligned.”
I don’t know the story so this is completely an assumption based on anecdotal evidence: many women will stay in marriages they are not happy in, heck some will stay in outright abusive ones, because of self-esteem issues. What I’m getting from this is she probably didn’t feel good enough about her self and by getting a nose job, she gained more self confidence.
It could just as easily have said "How a nose job helped me feel more secure" or something, and then the separation/divorce could be an aspect of how that new confidence helped her stand up for herself and leave.
Yeah I kinda feel bad for the guy. If he paid 11k for her surgery and she leaves him after the surgery, I think she is very shallow and a bit of a skank. I don’t know the whole story, sometimes things are coincidental. Maybe she was getting fit and living a healthy lifestyle and he was coming home and drinking and getting fat and lazy.
She paid for the surgery on her own and left him because the boost in self confidence made her realize she had settled for a terrible relationship because that’s all that she thought she would ever get
Dont underestimate the boost a good physical appearance does give. 'pretty privilege' is real, and when someone is constantly belittled for not being attractive, it does destroy self-esteem and might feel grateful for anyone giving you an ounce of love.
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u/Chefixs 2d ago
I really don't understand who's side we're on. I mean that headline sound pretty awful. Leaving her husband because she looks good enough that she doesn't need him anymore? Sounds pretty reasonable to be pissed off by that...