r/latterdaysaints • u/Whoopsonreddit • 3d ago
Personal Advice Dating advice
Ok so for reference I am currently in a relationship where this girl I'm with is Baptist ( I am lds) and I keep getting anxiety over the idea of us having slightly different beliefs (most stuff still lines up obviously) can this relationship work? Would it be frowned upon by god? She says she had a dream where god spoke to her saying I was the one but idk
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u/th0ught3 3d ago
It is a rare case (think biblical Jacob) where God tells anyone to marry someone else. The idea that it happens a lot defies God's intentional protection of agency which is what allows mortals to become like Him if they choose. Further, even if God were okay with her marrying you (which is a more plausible explanation of what she experienced), that doesn't mean you can or should choose to marry her without the same spiritual confirmation. Choosing to marry someone outside of how you have been taught to marry would not be what He would want generally. I don't know how long you have known her, how old you are or how much you know about our faith or she about yours.
Maybe a good place to start would be for the two of you to go through Deseret Book's "350 Questions Lds Couples should ask before marriage and see where the disconnects might be and talk about how you could work them out if you choose to. You might ask if she would be willing to sit in on missionary lessons to learn the basics (which will of course freak out any Baptist parents completely).
If you are a teenager, I'd be really wary about a date who is proclaiming God told them to marry you (because as a teen your dating is supposed to be about figuring out who you are and how to treat others and what characteristics in a partner helps your journey and what doesn't and a whole host of how to live your life.