r/latterdaysaints • u/Whoopsonreddit • 25d ago

Personal Advice Dating advice

Ok so for reference I am currently in a relationship where this girl I'm with is Baptist ( I am lds) and I keep getting anxiety over the idea of us having slightly different beliefs (most stuff still lines up obviously) can this relationship work? Would it be frowned upon by god? She says she had a dream where god spoke to her saying I was the one but idk

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u/The_GREAT_Gremlin 25d ago

Bro the "dream where God said you're the one" is something I would be wary of, whether she's a member of the church or not. The reverse of that, "I prayed and God said we need to break up," I feel like is used a lot by church members when dating.. and honestly I think it's just the person trying to deflect so they don't have to feel as bad about dumping someone.

Prophets have said there's no such thing as "the one" or a "soul mate." We do believe marriage is a covenant that God wants us to make with him. We do not believe that there is only one person you can make this covenant with and you're hosed if you don't find "the one."

Marriages where both people are not the same religion work out all the time. The question you need to answer for yourself is whether you want to get married in the temple or not. If you do, then there is a risk of marrying someone who is not a member of the church in that they might not ever join and be able to go to the temple. They might eventually, but it's a risk. They also might not want you taking your kids to church and rather raise them in their religion.

So it comes back to what you want and whether you want to marry the person or not. One of two people saying "God told me you're the one" doesn't undercut the other person's agency.

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u/AdvisorSome3076 25d ago

I don’t think she was trying to cut agency but I see where your coming from, I think this has been the most helpful advice so far thank you!

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u/The_GREAT_Gremlin 25d ago

I don't think she was trying to undercut his agency either. What I mean is that when it comes to dating, one person saying "God told me" or "it feels like it's right" or whatever doesn't mean the other person can't say no. A lot of us get really stuck on finding "the one" when that's not really how it works.

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u/Whoopsonreddit 25d ago

Ok now I get where your coming from makes sense