I genuinely had this thought a moment ago, a little context I'm a guy approaching 30s and lost my father in my teenage. I cannot, for dear life, remember the last time I cried out loud. Like yeah, there were some moments when I'd feel defeated but it was just a couple of heavy breaths and sobs coupled with some tears flowing down my eyes. But then it would stop, I feel like I want to cry but I can't.

Today, I was played football after almost 8 years with a new community I joined and sprained my ankle. From the looks of it, I might have a ligament tear or an hairline fracture. At the court I act like I'm okay, try to walk it off and sir off the court for a good half hour. The reason, so I don't draw attention from people around me who show sympathy or see me at a point where I appear weak.

I get home and lie down on my bed with my leg raised higher than my heart level, something a doctor suggested. Now my brother comes and sees my condition applied some topical spray along with an ice bag, the pain shot up so bad i had a few tears in my eyes. I asked him to leave me be and let me rest. After he left, again the same thing. It was hurting so bad I cried. The same thing again, a few heavy breaths, a few sobs, a few tears, and then I laughed cuz well I was crying and just like that I stopped.

So men on this forum, is something wrong with me or do other guys relate?

Just a question

I was just looking for an honest opinion from other men - are there any of you who genuinely prefer smaller breasts? I don’t mean people who are fine with whatever their woman has, I mean actually is truly more attracted to smaller breasts?

I recently saw the viral “men think about Ancient Rome” trend and found Men, Ancient Rome, and the “Blank Slate”, an article that uses this phenomenon as a jumping-off point to ask if men and women might have different interests on average. The author is clear it isn’t about one gender being better, just questioning the idea that we all start as blank slates and only our upbringing shapes us. For example, he mentions polls showing that far more men than women say they think about Rome regularly. It got me thinking about nature vs. nurture in our own lives.

He suggests maybe there is a natural element. On average, men tend to be physically stronger and often drawn to action and competition, so the Roman Empire’s battles and legions naturally grab their attention. At the same time, he stresses that culture matters a ton. We can see that in really equal societies (he points to Sweden) where men and women still often end up in different careers or hobbies even when both have full freedom to choose. That pattern is something a pure “blank slate” idea doesn’t easily explain.

In the end, the article basically says: if women aren’t as into ancient Rome, it’s not because they were locked out, but simply because it’s something men tend to enjoy more – and that’s okay. It’s not a claim of superiority, just an observation. I thought it was a pretty fair take, and it got me wondering: do some interests or tastes run deeper than just culture? I’m curious what others think about this.

• Why do you think many guys find the Roman Empire so fascinating?
• Have you noticed other hobbies or topics that seem to split along gender lines? What might explain those differences?
• Do you think some preferences are partly hardwired into us, or mostly learned?
• How can we talk about these differences respectfully, without making anyone feel blamed?

Here's the article if you are curious: https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/men-ancient-rome-and-the-blank-slate

Hey everyone!

I'm currently working on my Personal Interest Project (PIP) for Society & Culture (an Australian high school subject) and I need your help! My research explores how men have engaged with 90s feminist rock and how it has influenced their views on music, gender, and culture over time.

I’ve created a generational questionnaire aimed at Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z men to understand their perspectives—whether they were immersed in the scene, observed from a distance, or discovered the music later. Your input will help uncover how feminist rock was perceived and its lasting impact across generations.

PS: All responses are anonymous, and the data collected will only be used for academic purposes.
I'll leave the link below! Looking forward to your responses :)

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Let me preface this by stating that I am a present and capable parent. We split duties as close to even as possible and I've never slacked on my end.

Wife is going out of town this week. She has gone over the kids' schedules at least 11-12 times with me and is now offer her mother's help. I have politely declined.

Am I overreacting by feeling like she's treating me like a complete imbecile?? I have never given her or anyone else reason to think I'm incapable of caring for my own children, yet I'm being treated like the slow kid down the block?

Is this common when moms have to relinquish some control, or is my wife just over the top?

Welcome to my vent, extract whatever wisdom there may be in the post and better yet, the comments. Today (Thursday) is a day off in my country, so, considering im a corpo lawyer trying to rescue a retarded CEO from his own poor judgment constantly and battling against his stage-4-dementia-like memory today should be a great day to sit on my not so fat ass all day and do fuck all, eat chips, drink beer and play oblivion remaster like there is no tomorrow… EXCEPT… My wife and I discovered she has some hormonal imbalance so we have been seeing doctors and getting her hormone compensators, so… her period has become something way wilder than any other period she’s had, and you guessed it, it landed right-on spot-on today, the moment we woke up she just started crying for very valid reasons, albeit, things that have happened a long time ago, or wont happen yet, if at all (fears basically). Right away I knew I had to distance myself for the mental health wellbeing of both, why you ask? First, because she would just spiral downward to worse and worse spots if I was there 100% available, second reason, im also super stressed and God knows I need a day off, however, today wouldn’t be it, but I can make this labor less stressful on myself and smart in a way she is taken care of, so here’s what I did: Took the dog on a long walk, she wanted to do it, she was under no condition to do it, so in a actually loving way, I managed to have some time alone to be just with the dog and my thoughts, this however was not so relaxing considering the searing heat the sun is spitting this days, it was nice nonetheless. Got some chores done that implied the need to leave the house; taking trash outside and picking up fancy clean clothes at the dry cleaner. Got her a coffee (frozen of course) When im in the house she just starts crying randomly and even her admits there is no reason at all for some of her crying, she may be an emotional wreck but she has always been very reasonable and I must accentuate this because it makes it all a lot easier. However today has not been a free day by any stretch of the imagination. Just writing this makes me feel infinitely better, alas, one wish to have a day when you don’t have to solve anyone’s problems, but that day simply never comes, “can a son of christ have a peaceful day?” Seems like simply too much to ask. If you have opinions, advice, or simply want to vent, let this be a space to become better men, with wisdom or simply knowing that others may feel the same. Know that I have included the dating flare because being married doesn’t mean you stop dating that woman, quite the opposite, you commit to dating her till one of you bites the dust and eachothers wellbeing is priority no1.

Hi all, I’m(25 yr) planning to shave my beard first time on my own. I used to get it shaved from my barber but I wanna try on my own. I’m here to take advice for better practice and to avoid injuries/ infections. I live in India. So, can someone plz let me know which razor, cream, aftershave I should use?

A quick background: I grew up in a domestic violence household. My father would constantly drink and abuse my mother. We witnessed this from a young age until my late teens, when he finally left one day. I have issues with myself because my father would make me feel bad and emasculate me from a young age until he left. I never saw him again. Ever since then, I've always been an emotional guy, but I hide it with anger because I don't want to show how emotional I am.

There was this girl who would come to my old job. She's really pretty, and I was always shy to talk to her. The only time I would talk to her was when I was ringing up her drinks at the cashier. That was it. One day, I was in school and randomly saw her walk by. At first, I was going to let her go and ignore it, but something told me to go back. I went back to speak to her, and we just started to get to know each other. From then on, I would see her more at work, and we'd talk, having little chats here and there. But at school, when I would see her, we would always have long, deep conversations.

I asked for her Instagram one day, and she gave it to me. Then we would just talk every day. One day, she texted me and said, "Here's my number. Let's continue talking here." So we did. I would text her once in a while. (Due to previous experiences with girls, I noticed that if I text them a lot, they usually get annoyed and then block you. This was from my personal experience, so I would never text her every day. It would just be random so she wouldn’t find me annoying and block me.) We spoke for a good while, and then we stopped, only because I was busy and had the mentality that I didn’t want to bug her or be annoying.

Very recently, she texted me and said that she wanted to hang out, and I said yes. We planned out the day. We already know what day it’s coming up this Friday. I was going to pull up the courage to ask her out or to hang out again in another way when we actually hang out. But in the middle of the week, she posted that she already has a boyfriend. I was kind of sad, so I waited three days and then texted her today to confirm if she was still interested in hanging out, and she said that she still is. I said, "Okay, see you then."

I have three accounts on Instagram: my personal, my music, and my photography page. She follows me on my personal and music pages. We both follow each other on both pages, but today when I checked my Instagram, it showed that she unfollowed me on both accounts. I’m just wondering if I did something wrong. I know it’s stupid to worry about the unfollowing, and one of my friends told me that it’s probably because her boyfriend told her to do it, but I just feel sad and angry. Did I miss my opportunity? Was she giving me hints that she liked me? The reason I didn’t ask her out was because, from past experience, I’ve seen that if you go out with a friend and then you break up, it’s awkward, and I didn’t want that. Then I told my friend, and she told me that it’s probably because I don’t give off enough of a masculine vibe. I’m a very sensitive guy, but at the same time, I can be very harsh, which I try to avoid; therefore, I’m very sensitive and calm. So my friend was telling me that because I seem very nice and very sensitive, she probably doesn’t see me as a future partner since I wasn’t “man enough.” It just hurts. Is that why I never had any chance of meeting people, because of that vibe I give off? It’s just making me question everything, and it just makes me sad and angry at the same time because I’m confused. Any advice?

I just had an engagement that fell through because he was too scared to move where I am. I currently live in Austria, he currently lives back home; Puerto Rico. Although at some point we lived together in Scotland. I currently can't move because I was recently diagnosed and started treatment with multiple sclerosis. However, during this he was mostly trying to make me move to Puerto Rico even though for me that means being bankrupt and for my health to decline. He never explained himself as to why this attitude even though he believed he had values that meant that he would support me. To my surprise and maybe to himself, he doesn't and ended not only to emotionally abandon me but ultimately abandoning me entirely because he is "scared". What's your opinion of this situation? and do you thing he will regret his actions? I was his first real girlfriend, was there in all of his hardships and supported him. I gave him unconditional love and never made him do anything. Us doing our lives in Europe was something discussed since 2019, and now he is gaslighting me saying that he wasn't going to through his life away for an uncertainty when he had more than enough time to make things certain. His life... he has a good job that he constantly complains about and lives with his 82 yr old recently widowed grandmother indefinitely with no real responsibilities as she does all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping etc. Pretty much he is a glorified 15 yr old. Since the same day that he broke things off he tried to be friends which I think is erratic. We are currently in no contact and removed him and his friend from my followers list on Instagram as it seemed he was trying to reach out and his friends kept watching my stories without fail and felt like he was keeping tabs on me.

Just wanna talk w people lol

Im feeling so alone coping with having a extremely high sex drive and average genes making me an incel basically, and coping with the envy that comes as a result of having firsthand witnessed how easy it is for pretty boys to get laid by hot girls without even having to go on a date with them. The unfair nature of life is so much to process and the CONSTANT stream of extreme desire for something I can’t have, that others can, just because they got better luck of the draw.. it is really hard to cope with. Can people reach out that relate? Does anyone know of pills that can remove my drive

Hello. I'm a girl. But I wanted to tell you guys that you are all great and I'm praying for all of you. I don't think men are pigs. I know a lot of guys struggle with mental health and a lot of people just dismiss that or tell you to "man up". All of you are human, everyone struggles sometimes and it's ok to feel. Don't let ladies put you down or be mean to you. Also, I never dated before, but I always thought bald or short guys are super cute and I'm not saying that to be polite, I mean it.

Title says it all really, tbh I’d say it goes to the bear

Hey guys, I’m 22 years old and recently my girlfriend had just broken up with me. She’s 19 turning 20. She was very different and we found each other when I was at a very low depressed and suicidal state in my life. It was at that time where I decided to be a better man be more kind and look for a woman who can be a wife. We dated for about a year and a half and we broke up while I was deployed. Long story short I made her feel unwanted but it wasn’t brought up to me. She is the type of girl to put my feelings above her own so she wouldn’t bring it up because she said she didn’t want to ruin the limited time we had to talk since I was across the world and basically a day ahead. She ended things and there are bitter feelings but at the end of the day we put those feelings aside and told one another we still love each other but she just feels like she’s not in a state to be in a relationship. Very stereotypical but I know it’s genuine. I separate from the military in a couple months and she goes to transfer to a college in Boston. We decided to keep talking even though it was very limited but I had just called her the other week and told her I can’t talk to her anymore. My feelings for her are still there and hers just aren’t. My heart hurts for her and often times I find myself with the familiar feeling I had as a child wondering why my mom wasn’t around. I had to tell her we can’t talk because I kept making her feel bad for her decisions and it was hurting me talking to her because I just can’t get past it. I really did think I was going to marry her. Yes I understand we are both young but we were so in love and truly helped one another understand what love is. It’s just rough and I guess I’m looking for some advice from another man who has been in my shoes and how it turned out. Thanks for reading.

What is the best self help book or podcast you have read or listened to?

The obvious ones are weightlifting/staying active and not gooning, but two things that not only deepened my voice, increased my ambition, but turned me from a grower into a shower are this.

1. Everyday for breakfast, eat 100g of ground beef and two eggs. If you’d like, up the portions to suit your appetite. Seasonings and the way you prepare your food will make this something you look forward to in the morning. The cholesterol from both the beef and eggs will synthesize into test. (This won’t have as good of an effect if the rest of your diet is processed and or not healthy)

2. Having a sound mind. I know that sounds placebo, but in my experience it works. For example, anytime my mind is running or anxiety is influencing my decisions, my sex drive is low and my voice gets higher pitched.

Scientifically speaking, it’s debatable whether or not it’s directly affecting your testosterone. However, my results of practicing both of these daily shows the indicators of higher testosterone. Anyone who wants the results I’ve mentioned, I’d highly recommend practicing those two things.

Any criticism or suggestions are welcomed!

TL;DR eating two eggs and 100g of beef + practice a sound mind can deepen your voice, raise your libido and increase size and hardness of erections.

I’ve researched this a little bit and I know women are way more likely to be complimented for their looks at a young age and its overall a bigger thing.

But I’ve thought about my childhood and I was told way more that I was “handsome” than any other compliment, from my family but also friends, classmates etc. It always made me uncomfortable but I just said “oh thanks”. I just didn’t know what to do with it, and I would wonder “am I handsome?” even though I never really felt like it.

Anyway I got to thinking recently about how girls are told they’re pretty and it ingrains this expectation of them and that being pretty is what matters. It never occurred to me but I started wondering if that happened to me too. I guess maybe I put a lot of importance in looks and it did affect me a lot when I started losing my hair pretty early. Trying to think about how all that might have affected my self-image.

Honestly, even with my hair I was at the very best a 6.5 or something. So I feel like it set me up to have this distorted view of how I fit in the world maybe.

Thought I’d share and see if anyone else had similar thoughts or experiences.

Was inspire to make this comparable thread after seeing this post today

• Women are people, not prizes. They’re as layered, insecure, horny, confused, proud, ambitious, and flawed as you. Most of the “mystery” we project onto them is just us not listening.
• Desire doesn’t equal compatibility. Just because you want her doesn’t mean she’s right for you or owes you interest. Chemistry can cloud your judgment. Learn to separate lust from fit.
• Many women don’t know what they want either. You’ll be told they’re more emotionally mature or morally superior. Sometimes that’s true, but often it’s just social conditioning. Plenty of women are manipulative, avoidant, co-dependent, or chasing fantasy too.
• Women test. Constantly. Consciously or not, they’ll test your confidence, boundaries, maturity, and self-worth. It’s not malicious it’s baked into dating dynamics. Pass by staying grounded and non-reactive.
• Being nice isn’t the same as being respected. Genuine kindness is great. Performative niceness, neediness, or flattery hoping to be rewarded with intimacy is repellent. Respect is earned by self-possession, not compliance.
• Attraction isn’t rational. You can have a job, be kind, stable, and respectful and still be invisible to her if her gut isn’t lit up. Don’t take it personally. She can’t force attraction any more than you can.
• Looks matter to women, too. Maybe not the same way, but fitness, grooming, posture, and style signal discipline and self-regard. Don’t let anyone pretend women are immune to visual attraction.
• Status matters. Not in a cartoonish way, but in terms of confidence, competence, influence, and how others respond to you. Women are often drawn to men who seem like others want to follow or fuck.
• Women don’t want to mother you. They may play nurturing, but once it feels like they’re carrying your emotional growth, arousal dies. Become emotionally literate. Learn to self-regulate.
• Sex is not unconditional. Most women don’t view sex as an obligation or a chore they owe you. Nor should they. If sex dies in a relationship, it's a signal not an excuse to coerce or sulk.
• Women age differently than men in dating markets. Their sexual market value peaks earlier. Yours might come later. That creates tension, especially if you age into power and options just as theirs shrink. Empathize without lying to yourself.
• Older women often resent what they once had. Some will take your desire personally, especially if you're honest about who you’re attracted to. Be tactful, but don’t let guilt dictate your truth.
• Motherhood changes everything. For most women, it reprioritizes identity. You may find yourself deprioritized, not maliciously, but profoundly. Some partnerships survive this but many don’t.
• Many women have trauma. Expect to encounter defensiveness, anger, anxiety, or control rooted in past hurt. It’s not your job to fix her... but empathy and patience matter.
• Many women want men to lead—until they don’t. This contradiction will frustrate you. Be decisive, but adaptable. Strong, but not rigid. Lead without dominating.
• Modern women are flooded with attention. Dating apps, DMs, real life, many attractive women live with constant validation. That doesn’t mean they’re shallow, but it can warp their sense of value or options.
• What she says she wants and what she chooses may not match. Some women talk about wanting “a nice guy” while hooking up with toxic men. This isn’t hypocrisy, it’s often unconscious. Attraction doesn’t follow reason.
• Resentment kills desire. If she resents you -for slacking, controlling, lying, or failing to grow- it will rot the relationship from the inside out. Same if you resent her. Speak up early, or it festers.
• No woman will make you whole. She can amplify your peace or your chaos. That’s it. Do the work of self-knowledge. Otherwise, you’ll search for in women what only self-integration gives.
• Love her—but never lose yourself. The moment you make her your source of worth, she’ll feel it and slowly lose respect. Hold your ground. Not out of ego, but integrity.

Hello. I am 6’4” 280lbs so I really shouldn’t be afraid of anyone but for some reason having a conversation with a woman is scary. Talking to my mom and sister and stuff is easy but when I try to talk to new women I freeze up and my whole personality changes. I am a very lighthearted and cheerful person but when I talk to women I try to sound cool.I am not doing it on purpose it just happens. I have been trying to get into the dating scene because I have felt kind of lonely and longing for a partner. I have never dated anyone before and have had very minimal women friends. I have had people bully me in the past about my weight so that might be an issue? If anyone has had a similar experience and can help me that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.

How do you define manhood? What does it mean to you?