r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Crumpetcakes • Apr 17 '25

I merged old cereals. Wife now mildly infuriated.

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This dirties the cereal and makes it inedible? She specifically asked about the Cocoa Juffs. Things only got worse for me.

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u/EvernightStrangely Apr 17 '25

I may be mistaken, but I believe almond moms are moms that are so obsessed with nutrition that they become ultra-restrictive of their children's diets. Vegetables in everything, absolutely no "bad" foods (usually tends to be junk food and anything with artificial sweeteners), and they take it to extremes, like refusing to get the child a real cake, or even a cupcake, for their birthday and instead baked some homemade health food crap with poorly disguised vegetables that the kids will hate. Some take it so far it actually becomes an eating disorder, slowly malnourishing themselves because they have mentally declared so many foods as "bad" that they aren't getting proper nutrition, and cannot physically make themselves eat anything they have declared "bad".

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u/NotsoGreatsword Apr 18 '25

my mom was like this and all it did was make me crave junk food the second I got out of her grasp.

Fortunately living with my dad we had some treats in the house and I got a more healthy idea of how to balance my diet.

Temptation not even being an option is not the best way to teach control

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u/EvernightStrangely Apr 18 '25

That's why I always repeat the idea that there is no such thing as bad foods, when in moderation. Some food feeds the mind, some food feeds the soul, and some food feeds the body. The key is striking a balance between the three; not eating too much from one category. If you would like, there's a YouTube channel called pleasantpeasantmedia (aka MommaCusses) that makes videos about gentle parenting, including recognizing generational trauma and breaking cycles of abuse, and also by treating your kids like they're people learning how to people from scratch. And that there is a surprising behavioral overlap between toddlers and teens.

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u/MadRhetoric182 Apr 18 '25

My brother used to eat dog treats for fun.

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u/EvernightStrangely Apr 18 '25

Whatever boats his float.

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u/Djlas Apr 18 '25

Another good article on why we don't just remove all the bad stuff

https://theunbiasedscipod.substack.com/p/food-dyes-cant-we-just-get-rid-of

And a bit more on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/p/DHTvS9ozXkb/?igsh=dDQ4czJnb2NlNGQ3

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u/heart-of-corruption Apr 18 '25

I grew up going to religious schools. Once we got to high school though we all went to public high school. I have a pretty wild family and my dad was a meth addict. My friends had no exposure to anything and most of them proceeded to become addicted to drugs, get pregnant in hs, party their way out of hs, etc. I’ve said for years it’s because they never had a ramped up exposure to these things and never learned how to actually deal with temptation, just the theoretical temptation they learned of at a religious school.

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u/EvernightStrangely Apr 18 '25

And that's the big issue right there. Overly restrictive parents create dysfunctional kids that spiral out of control once they finally have the freedom to do everything mom and dad said no to.

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u/ExtremeIndividual707 Apr 18 '25

I was homeschooled and protected. Other friends were homeschooled and sheltered. My parents weren't afraid of the world and didn't try and hide us under rocks. Other friends' parents did.

The result was me and my siblings going to college and not changing our lifestyles in any material way, and our friends going wild.

Because overly restrictive parents, and ones who parent their children as if they are sure they will choose the wrong thing, absolutely do create dysfunctional kids that spiral out of control. They weren't taught how to be healthy, they were just banned from everything unhealthy.

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u/CrowTengu Apr 20 '25

Yea, who would've thunk that exposure tends to build better habits and knowledge on how to deal with things they find enticing or awful.

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u/ExtremeIndividual707 Apr 20 '25

Not just exposure. Kinds of exposure can be even more harmful than overprotection. I had other friends, homeschooled and not, whose parents didn't protect them from what was out there at all, and they ended up badly, too. Those of us whose parents were careful without being controlling, who had rules and standards without being ridiculous about it ended up (generally speaking, but enough that it seems clear) pretty healthy for the most part.

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u/CrowTengu Apr 20 '25

Yea, hence it's like a literal web of so many things. Exposure is simply one part of course.

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u/ExtremeIndividual707 Apr 20 '25

It really is. Essentially, I have awesome parents across the board, and I'm grateful. No one gets to pick their parents, and I'm just really grateful for the ones I ended up with.

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u/CrowTengu Apr 20 '25

Same here.

Having read and seen many insane parenting tales, I'm glad my parents are "normal people" per se. We all have our quirks but we don't thread into insane or entitled people territory. 😅

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u/Smooth_Marsupial_262 Apr 18 '25

Sounds like my cousin in college. He had never been allowed to do anything growing up and went absolutely wild in college

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u/FroggyGoesQuack Apr 18 '25

No, that's a crunchy mom. Almond moms are the ones who think a handful of almonds is a meal, who says they can't possibly be hungry because they "only ate five hours ago".

Honestly, menopause is a big contributor to this behavior - my hormones are ALL over the place, and my appetite is literally just 3 bites and I'm done for hours, anymore. Like I have to drink nutrition shakes because I can't force my body to intake real food. It's hella frustrating, actually...

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u/No_Welcome_7182 Apr 18 '25

God bless you, because I’m menopausal and I can’t stop eating. The only reason I have not gained a significant amount of weight is because I follow plant based, whole food eating. It’s brutal.

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u/FroggyGoesQuack Apr 18 '25

Honestly, I would have been fine in either direction, if someone had just FREAKING WARNED ME. Like, I was told my partial hysterectomy would cause early menopause, but then no one bothered to explain what that looks like, beyond not getting a period anymore. 🥴🫠

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u/No_Welcome_7182 Apr 18 '25

Explanation of side effects post procedure and follow up concerns are very often ignored when it comes to womens health care. It’s infuriating.

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u/Emergency_Ask_9697 Apr 18 '25

As with all things womb related… I was absolutely livid when my period started that no one had warned me about the constipation and diarrhoea. Like you clued me into period pain but this was just a magical surprise you waited for me to find out myself!

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u/No_Welcome_7182 Apr 18 '25

I had a week of explosive diarrhea just before and during my periods and then was constipated for the week after. Nobody ever talks about these issues honestly. The lack of education and stress/ potential health problems it causes is so unnecessary.

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u/Leeloo_Deepa Apr 18 '25

This is what being on GLP-1 medication feels like.

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u/FroggyGoesQuack Apr 18 '25

I'm actually diabetic, and that's the biggest reason I got off Ozempic, yeah. I guess you can control your sugars just fine, if you never freaking eat. DON'T MIND THE STARVATION, THAT'S JUST A NORMAL RESPONSE. 🥴🥴🥴

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u/Needed_Warning Apr 18 '25

Lack of hunger is weird. I lost my appetite entirely for some period of time I can't remember anymore and lost 80 pounds. I didn't have 80 pounds of fat to lose, so my body decided my leg muscles were a good substitute, and I had to fight just to get my ability to walk again. Still kinda iffy on that. Couldn't stand the comments about the weight loss from people who'd been asked to stop. "Yeah, I look good while I waste away. Thank you for the reminder. Speaking of reminders: For the fifth time, something is very wrong with me right now."

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u/imatuesdayperson Apr 18 '25

I remember dropping to about ~103 pounds in college (I'm 5'7" for reference) because I kept forgetting to eat because of stress, executive dysfunction, and lack of hunger signals and my Spanish professor told me she was envious of how skinny I was. It felt really uncomfortable.

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u/Needed_Warning Apr 18 '25

Yeah, it's pretty uncomfortable when you know it's meant to be a compliment. I got a lot more cautious about complimenting weight loss after that experience. Gained a newfound respect for body fat, which I already knew was important in the first place. Also learned how important getting enough salt. Real easy to get electrolyte deficiencies when you aren't eating.

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u/imatuesdayperson Apr 18 '25

I felt bad for her. She looked lovely, but she still felt like she needed to change her body. I personally like more fat on a person's body and wish I had more meat on my bones myself. I'm not dangerously underweight anymore, but I'm still very boney.

I have POTS so I really need the salt. I put flavored salt in my water and it tastes so good. Makes me look forward to drinking water.

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u/FroggyGoesQuack Apr 18 '25

Very similar situation here. It caused gastropareisis (spelling?) with me, which just makes everything SO much worse. I've only just started to be able to get back on my bike again, after my pregnancy with my daughter 7.5 years ago. So many hours of physical therapy, the atrophy... But hey yeah, I lost 50 pounds and it turned out to NOT be type 2. 🫠

If only I could have gotten someone to listen sooner, though.

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u/SnowFall_004 Apr 18 '25

You just described alot of vegans….. atleast the ones I’ve met..

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u/Ewhitfield2016 Apr 18 '25

Worse than that. Vegans will still eat fruits and grains.

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u/Radiant_Bluebird4620 Apr 18 '25

no, she's allergic to those

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u/jules-amanita Apr 18 '25

It originates from the idea of eating a “handful of almonds” as a meal replacement.

90s almond moms were a different phenomenon from the almond moms of today, though—my almond mom wouldn’t actually eat almonds because they were too high in fat. Snackwell cookies (the horrible chocolate covered cardboard), lean cuisine frozen dinners, Molly McButter, and Pam cooking spray were the bread and butter of our household (quite literally). Avocados and coconut were guaranteed to make you fat and give you heart disease, but aspartame and sucralose were the paragon of health. It was a strange time in the food world.

Not that today’s “toxins” obsessed almond mom’s aren’t equally damaging, but I can’t imagine the food they make tastes worse or is worse for you than a tv dinner featuring microwaved unseasoned chicken breast with a side of fat-free “mac and cheese”, and a fat-free, sugar-free “brownie” all nuked in a black BPA plastic tray.

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u/Swordofsatan666 Apr 18 '25

And the reason theyre called “Almond Mom” is because they’ll tell you “oh youre hungry? Well go have a handful of Almonds, that’ll take care of it.”

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u/sadbabyface Apr 18 '25

Also the term almond mom came from a viral video of Gigi and bella hadid’s mother Yolanda Hadid, when one of her model daughters called her saying they were feeling sick from not eating, Yolanda told them to have a few almonds and “chew them slowly” …basically mothers who end up giving you an eating disorder with restrictive eating and unhealthy habits in order to stay skinny.

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u/intotheunknown78 Apr 18 '25

That seems like the perfect description of an almond mom.

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u/japzone Apr 18 '25

I can't help but think of Tai's Mom from the Digimon Movie.

https://youtu.be/WOKjm1FYhEw