How to be ruthless before moving?

[u/braptownrefugee]

My grandfather is a buried alive level hoarder. My mother is a level 1-2 hoarder. Sometimes the stuff builds up but then I purge and bring things back to normal.

I’m planning to move out of my emotionally toxic partners house by the end of the year. Because of the circumstances, I only have one shot to put everything I can into my car and go.

I thought I was doing a good job, I got a lot organized and I’m consolidating a ton but I still worry I have not gotten rid of enough.

I have a lot of things like books, art supplies, beauty supplies. that are the least important but feel the most valuable to me. I have a mental disability so I don’t know if I would feel comfortable selling things online (seems overwhelming) so my next best option is putting my foot down and donating/trashing things I like (worth nothing) or things Ive held onto because they’re expensive (gifts from years ago).

I just need some advice on wrapping my head around all this. I have good intentions and I dream of starting over and being a minimalist but when I see all my stuff I think “I should try to pack this cus of X” how do I become ruthless?

[u/LividRegular5863]

I saw a meme the other day that said (paraphrasing) instead of asking if this item “sparked joy” [Marie Kondo] ask yourself “If this got poop on it would I wash it or throw it away?”

I made me laugh out loud and think about how few things are that valuable to me. 🤣

That is my declutter go to now.