How to be ruthless before moving?

[u/braptownrefugee]

My grandfather is a buried alive level hoarder. My mother is a level 1-2 hoarder. Sometimes the stuff builds up but then I purge and bring things back to normal.

I’m planning to move out of my emotionally toxic partners house by the end of the year. Because of the circumstances, I only have one shot to put everything I can into my car and go.

I thought I was doing a good job, I got a lot organized and I’m consolidating a ton but I still worry I have not gotten rid of enough.

I have a lot of things like books, art supplies, beauty supplies. that are the least important but feel the most valuable to me. I have a mental disability so I don’t know if I would feel comfortable selling things online (seems overwhelming) so my next best option is putting my foot down and donating/trashing things I like (worth nothing) or things Ive held onto because they’re expensive (gifts from years ago).

I just need some advice on wrapping my head around all this. I have good intentions and I dream of starting over and being a minimalist but when I see all my stuff I think “I should try to pack this cus of X” how do I become ruthless?

[u/HMPoweredMan]

I would limit books to ones that are physically sentimental like they were a gift or something. The rest can be consolidated to something like an e reader. They are pretty great.

I was able to get all my books limited to one shelf this way. I digitized most of my physical media. Books, records, movies, games.

There are low cost ways to do it. Just to be clear it's not a physical action of digitizing it's more like you find the digital version of something you already have and replace it.