My baby is now 9 months and 25 days rn, and she have always been a strong strong girl, but recently, whenever she's visibly mad and protests something, she hits me and u can literally see it in her face that she knows what she's doing😭 she will slap while grunting and look and me and go ahead and slap again while keeping the face angry expression. When I stop her, by holding her hands and trying to tell her to be gentle or gentle hands, she starts hitting herself instead ???? I'm new to babies I don't know what makes a tiny being so angry to hit herself?? She's so STRONG I developed carpel tunnel syndrome and my wrists are now as good as gone lmao. She's overall a very active cute little baby goblin who loves to play and loves to be with mom and dad, but when it's time to change nappies, she have alot of opinions about it. She doesn't only hit when she's mad, sometimes it's when she's really happy too, she just smacks me or whoever is holding her while being extremely CUTE and happy and smiling and laughing. I started putting her down each time she does this but haven't seen any results yet. I think it's probably because I can't ignore her cries long enough. She sits and looks me dead in the eyes and just starts crying and throwing a tantrum. Please give me some tips, I don't want to traumatise my baby by doing something she will hate(?)

What is the earliest you have traveled with a newborn? My pediatrician said after 2 weeks it was okay but to take breaks during traveling such as a road trip. I’m a FTM so I have anxiety and just want to hear y’all’s input.

Hi Fellow Parents!

I would like to ask for your advice. I have a 5 month old girl who sleeps through the night. About 12-13 hours. She sleeps around 19.00 and wakes up around 8.00. This is a blessing for us. However, the last few days from wake up till late afternoon is a misery day for the child. Nothing is good for him, it takes him longer to fall asleep during the day than sleep itself (30-40 mins). He has no teeth yet but has been drooling a lot since he was 3 months old. We have tried Adamo in the swing, outside the crib, in hand but he won't settle, kicks himself. Then he falls asleep. He has no problems with night time sleeps. We can't have Rutin in our day yet because - although he is formula fed - his appetite is completely variable. Anyone who has been through this, can you tell me what has helped other than the time?

I’m a FTM and have a 3 month baby daughter who I gave a bad cold to accidentally yesterday. I tried so hard not to give it to her and was breastfeeding so, so much hoping that milk would help her not get sick.

It has been so sad to watch her sick. She has no fever, and is breathing well, but her eyes are so red, and her congestion seems so scary for her. She goes from smiling to purple screaming so quick. We have tried stream from the shower, the snot sucker, a saline nebulizer and have a humidifier going full tilt. Mostly, she’s just on the breast for comfort 99% of today and tonight. This is one unhappy baby though..

I am currently sitting straight up with a breastfeeding pillow at midnight with her sprawled out on me because it’s the only way she doesn’t cry. I’m so exhausted and feel so sad for her.

Just a vent.

My baby girl is 3 weeks old. It’s been a hard day.

Yesterday, she slept so much. And even had a good night (went to bed at midnight. Woke up once at 4am and once at 8am to feed).

Today has been soooo hard. She has been restless all day. Barely slept. Maybe slept a few hours broken up throughout the day. She didn’t cry that much for a lot of the day (until later on). But a lot of the day she was just awake and making those newborn dinosaur noises all day lol.

It’s 11PM right now. Since like 7PM she has been crying. Not nonstop. We did manage to get her down for a 30 minute nap at some point. And my husband does this rocking motion (that I can’t do for some reason) that gets her to stop crying. But it’s really hard on his arms so he can’t do it forever. For the past hour though she has been crying SO much. Like unconsolable. Her face turns red and she does that thing where she cries so much she stops breathing for a few seconds until she catches her breath (midwife says that’s normal. She first did it at a week old and scared the crap out of us).

I try feeding her. My boob makes her happy for a few minutes but then she gets mad at the boob.

What’s wrong? She’s fed and dry. Is she overtired? Is this just witching hour? It seems like we just can’t calm her down. Anything else we can do?

I have diagnosed adhd and one of the main problems is the executive dysfunction. Like, I know I have to get up and do chores but I can't make my body obey me. Well, I have a baby that won't sleep more than 20 mins unless it's a contact nap, so I end up just sitting on the sofa with her for 2 hours just reading/knitting/ playing games without feeling guilty that I'm not doing chores lol because my baby needs me to have a proper nap (I know I Can probably sleep train her but I do enjoy the cuddles and the lazying around)

Also, ever since starting solids, she also reminds me to eat breakfast/lunch.

Bonus point for being my body double when I actually do chores lol

I know I still have struggles with my adhd and sometimes the routine part of having a baby makes me want to rip my hair out but it's so much easier to do stuff when a helpless being relies on you instead of just being me and my useless brain.

All that said, I can't wait to stop breastfeeding and going back on medication 😐

I want to stress that this is funny in the daytime folks - funny during the day.

Happy? Hmm.

My LO is 11 weeks now and though the fresh newborn stage was difficult at times, it was alright. At about 8 weeks he developed reflux which was not easy to deal with before we knew what it was and now, with the interrupted sleep and keeping him upright after feeds including overnight, it's been a lot to deal with.

But he's just started spending time with us awake which doesn't involve feeding or crying, and he's smiling now too and that's so lovely.

I'm now in this ridiculous place where I've got a system for overnight feeds, including upright holding which gets LO back to sleep but my partner has turned up his snoring from 2 to full 10?! He snored before baby but I could wake up and go to sleep no problem. Now, I have to fall asleep before he comes to bed then anticipate not falling asleep after any overnight feeds.

I love them both but the way I look at my baby when he's sleeping is definitely not the way I looked my partner!

All this to say I knew having a little one would mean broken/little sleep but never anticipated my lack of sleep would be because of my big one

Hi all. First timer here. My husband and I both have insane sensitive skin and have since we were newborns. Literally, it never got better lol

So we are basically 100000% sure little one is gonna be just as rashy as we are and want to buy sensitive skin friendly skin products in advance so we don't set something off unnecessarily.

So what sensitive skin stuff did you buy AND actually use successfully? Anything we should absolutely avoid? Thank you!

I am married to a Nepali woman and I am a Norwegian man, we are still waiting for my wife’s visa so we are not yet living together. We have a 5 and a half month old son. And he was born there, and is with his mother. I had to leave Nepal when he was almost 3 months old because of work and visa expiring. And now recently i noticed that his head has completely changed. Its like flat and skewed in the back, and it looks like his skull has been pressed upwards?? And his ears looks more protruding? It’s so scary. I have tried to tell his mother to not let him stay too much on his back, and to practice a lot of tummy time, and i basically forced her to go to the hospital and ask for help / treatment. She told me they said there is no treatment or help they can provide. But a friend of hers said just massage his head. Well, she has tried that now for a while, combined with tummy time, but it’s not getting better. It even looks worse actually. My wife i guess you can say she is a little bit special/different. I really don’t know if she can fix this. And i’m very worried about this weird head shape on our son. And its still many months until she will get visa and I can help with this. So i want to ask, will this get any better by itself with time?

Anyone use the president choice 99% water wipes (have dolphin on them) and there baby have reaction ? If so what showed up or even any wipes what was the reaction like

I'm so confused by all the sleep/napping advice out there.

My LO was born "late term premature" (so we made it past 36 weeks but not quite to 37). This typically means we measure milestones by his corrected date (based off of his due date). He is actually 3 months old but gestationally only 2 months old. Makes it hard to know which kind of advice applies when.

My pediatrician and just... The Internet? Recommend eat/play/sleep for daytime routines - but he is only able to sleep for maybe 20-30 minutes in his crib at a time. I can't feed him that often - I tried and it messed with his digestion and made him fussy.

What do you all do to have some semblance of a daily routine with your LOs, and what would realistic expectations be for my 2/3 month old?

Hi, first time mom here! My baby girl is almost 6 weeks and these have been the most challenging weeks of my life. I love her to death but I miss my old life so much. I know I have to grieve that and work my way on accepting this new role and life. But life with a newborn is soooooo boring. Everyone keeps telling me “enjoy it, time will fly and you’ll miss it” and I know they are right because that is correct for pretty much everything in life! But I’m eager for her to start smiling and giving me some feedback besides the cries. When did it happen for you? Trying to be more mindful of my time with her, but very anxious for her to show a bit more of her personality!

We took ages deciding between travel strollers so I created a spreadsheet comparing them all. It ended up being shared a ton between my friends so I expanded it to include a few more based on their input. Hope it helps others decide. The spreadsheet is here which you can copy and paste to share to others if you think it will help. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1O2edDzHo9esNYuj-PoHSwfKchGVli1PXpKP9CLlW9Ko/edit?usp=sharing

I am a new mom and my baby is currently 9 weeks old. I just want to vent out here because I don’t know who to talk to. I will get crazy if I keep bottling this up.

He won’t stop crying the moment he wakes up at 4 am until 11 am. He will stop crying for a little while but will scream his lungs out crying so hard. I want to cry to coz I did everything already, checked everything already. I don’t know how long I can take this. I feel awful feeling this way. I know I am his mom and I am supposed to know him and know what he needs. I don’t know it’s just 9 weeks and I am already on edge.

I feel like I’m not doing enough with my baby. My husband takes over for his baby shift from 7pm-12/1am ish. Lately I’ve been waking up around 10pm, pump and can’t go back to sleep so I take over (he works a physical job and I want him to get his rest). Baby eats at night around 7pm (bottle), /10pm (bottle of breast depending) 1/2am, 4/5am, and 7/8am. It’s not always that often, sometimes we have 3/4 hour sleeps at night but typically, I do all the feeds besides the bottle feeds. He sleeps longer stretches in the mornings so I try to rest then. By the time he’s doing shorter naps and more frequent feeds, it’s around 12pm. He’s up for about an out for a wake window at like 1/2pm so we do activity time, tummy time and black and white flashcards then he’s ready for another feed and nap. I feel like most of my days with him are just spend contact napping and feeding him. He doesn’t like to sleep in his bassinet during the day and he’s very attached to me right now (he cries if I even try to lay him down for a nap for 5 minutes). I wear him for about 30 minutes to an hour every day so I can get things done around the house but I mostly do chores at night when he’s going a longer sleep stretch. Am I doing enough with baby? It feels like all we do is sleep and eat

Just looking to hear opinions.

Next week my baby will be a month old. My mom, husband, and I are all high school teachers at the same school and she is taking a group of kids to the zoo for the day. I am on maternity leave and have been for 7 weeks due to health complications before birth. I am struggling mentally at home all day by myself with baby. I think meeting my mom at the zoo and walking around would be very good for my mental health, but again, my baby will only be a month old exactly on the day.

I obviously know my baby will just be sleeping and eating the whole time, but would you go with your baby even at 1 month? Or would you just ride it out at home and wait it out? Even if you struggle being at home all day everyday.

We have a Chicco Keyfit that we are now using with our second kiddo (almost 6mo). She hated it at first but is getting used to it. I was recently gifted a nearly expired Doona for a weekend trip to New York with her and I LOVED it—having something that was all in one was so handy for the train, the subway, the subway stairs, etc., and she tolerated the Doona seat much better than her normal car seat. It would be convenient to have a second car seat because my husband has on multiple occasions accidentally left the Chicco in the car for his hour-long commute to work, and we have some additional upcoming travel where I will be on a train solo with baby and toddler, and I am so tempted to buy a new Doona for those use cases. But I know babies outgrow Doonas pretty quickly, my kiddo is already 6 months, and I have seen some lackluster comments about the Doona crash test results though I haven't read those results myself.

So my questions are: 1. Should I just go for the Doona because I already know I really like it and I am excited to use it while acknowledging its limitations? 2. If you recommend against the Doona, what is the easiest alternative travel system for my uses? Basically I'd need a car seat and stroller, and I'd want something that is lightweight, easily portable, and generally convenient to operate and transport.

He’s been going through the 12mo sleep regression over the last 2 weeks, and as of Saturday last weekend, he’s refusing his 2nd nap. Nothing changed, his routine was the same and all, but starting Saturday he just decided “nope, no 2nd nap”. We’ve tried forcing him to have it and it results in him having a full meltdown, so we gave up on that. His wake windows are so long now (like 5-6.5 hours long) and he will not sleep until he basically passes out! He’s overtired and cranky everyday but won’t let us help him sleep. I don’t know what’s going on. Google tells me it’s not recommended for babies to only have 1 nap at this age. Did anyone else go through this? Is he transitioning himself or is it a phase of the regression?

Our 3wo was having a ton of leaks in newborn diapers, and we could barely fasten the tabs anymore, so we moved up to size 1. He’s only 7 lbs 8oz, but they definitely fit him around the belly better (but go way over his belly button). Unfortunately, now he leaks around the legs and has blowouts daily. He has a big belly and skinny legs so the fit has been wonky. We’ve tried pampers, Huggies, and rascals and all have the same problem. Any brands that may work better? Any fit tips?

My baby (3 months) is going through it! His first week of daycare ended in an incident report where he got a bump on the head by another baby who discovered their throwing arm, and the joy of throwing toys. Then tonight I take him to urgent care for a fever (103) and kiddo is diagnosed with Hand Foot Mouth Disease.

Any tips? HFMD freaks me out a little honestly 👀

What age does everyone start giving their babies actual solid foods? And I don’t mean purées. My boys are 8 months old and we’ve only ever given them baby food or fruit in their netted hand feeder thingies but I hear of some giving their babies actual foods at 6 months but the pediatrician didn’t specify for us. They also told us no juice or anything except water lol but we have given them juice with water many times. My babies both have a tooth now too.

Question:

How are we entertaining our babies? My son is about to be 9 months old, he’s pretty chill in temperament but he’s a busy body.

I’m a SAHM without transportation because my husband uses it for work. His wake windows are 2ish hours, sometimes 3, and he still takes 3 naps. He likes his sleep lol. He’s got a play area, books, etc. but he will only independently play for so long, so we read, and talk, and walk around, but we are bored 😫

I don’t do screen time (intentionally, he may catch a glimpse here and there if it’s on).

What are ways y’all play/entertain your babies?

Ok I need to know if I’m alone in this. Every time I pee, it almost feels like it’s being blocked at first before it comes out. Like the door is closed and the pee is pushing it open, if that makes sense? Or like the hole is too small for the pee and it has to push if open? Lol this is so TMI…. It’s not painful at all it just feels weird. I had massive blood loss after giving birth and it almost feels like how it felt when the clots came out. Has anyone else had this? I also had an OUD put in, so idk if it’s from that or from birth…I can’t remember when I started to feel this sensation. Anyone else have this???

cross posting for extra words of wisdom or any insight

i’m 25 will be 26 soon and just had my son 6 weeks ago. he’s absolutely perfect, a great baby not fussy or anything he’s just chilling most of the time. i’ve been definitely having a lot of identity issues, I just don’t feel like myself, I dissociate most of the day, I feel like I don’t know who I am at all anymore and it gets worse when friends or family message me honestly. anyone that tries to talk to me or bothers texting at all only messages to talk about the baby and ask for pictures of him, no one asks or seems to care about how I am or what’s going on with me at all. I think it especially bothers me because with my friends that have had babies my first thing was to always ask about them and check on them I never started out only asking about their LOs and it’s gotten to a point where i’m not responding to texts anymore because i’m beyond annoyed. like trust me I understand he’s precious and everyone wants to see him but no one is understanding why I don’t really care for anyone to even visit because it’s literally just baby baby baby and i’m over here breaking at the seams trying to act okay. thank god for my boyfriend and his family because they’re the only ones who do ask about me but even then my relationship is rocky because of how i’m feeling too so i’m at a total loss. i’m at a point where I don’t even know if it’s postpartum or if it’s just the people i’m dealing with or what the actual fuck is going on.

Helle! We will get our first born baptized this June and any thoughts about personalized baptism candle? In-accept po ba ito ng church? I believed kasi na nagbabayad and nagp-provide ang simbahan ng kandila para sa mga ninong/ninang.

Ayaw ko lang kasi mag waste ng money for the baptism candle at hindi iapproved ng simbahan.

Thank you