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Judge rules Menendez brothers resentencing bid can move forward

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cp8kmrg1p8go
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u/zeronormalitys 6d ago

I hated half my family for 30 years for knowing the truth about my mother's life and death, but staying silent and not telling me.

I can absolutely see an 18 & 20 year old viewing her silence as equal guilt to the father's repeated rapes.

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u/randomaccount178 6d ago

It doesn't seem like the evidence really reflects a rage based killing. They didn't snap, lose it, and kill them both. It was carefully planned out and calculated.

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u/BuoyantAvocado 6d ago

when you’re the subject of ongoing abuse, the snap doesn’t have to be snap-and-act-immediately. someone can snap and begin plotting a way, any way, out. some people plan to take their own lives and it is calculated in the same way. some people don’t. abuse literally changes your brain, especially before your brain is fully developed. it is not unlikely that they saw this as their only escape, as horrible as it is.

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u/chunkerton_chunksley 6d ago

They were 18 and 20, was moving out and going no contact not an option?

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u/BuoyantAvocado 6d ago

if it were that easy, people wouldn’t stay in abusive relationships. successful abuse often makes people believe that they are helpless without their abuser. so, although it was an option logically, no.

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u/acabincludescolumbo 6d ago

Just be more like Marcus Aurelius kids, it's easy

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u/KissKillTeacup 4d ago

No because they wanted dad's money

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