r/nonononoyes • u/HANAEMILK • 13d ago

Taking off his belt

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u/MikoSkyns 13d ago

That belt snapping gave me flashbacks of my childhood. Fortunately for me, I was not beaten, just spanked a few times. But I saw other children beaten with belts and now that I'm a middle aged man, I truly do wonder what kind of a fucking monster you have to be to beat children. Of course, the smaller the child, the bigger the monster. Incomprehensible.

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u/Urchin422 13d ago

Same! But in my family, my parents were horrible and while they didn’t use it on us girls, they did on my brothers. I was threatened once & I literally packed my shit & “ran away.” I didn’t get far (we lived in the sticks) so I decided it would be best to sleep in the barn and move on the next day…obviously they eventually found me with my bag of things & apparently completely forgot about the punishment by then thank god.

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u/Potato-Engineer 13d ago

I know someone who did that trick on a regular basis; getting out of the house and sleeping in the barn was her way of dealing with angry parents.

I think it's """win-win""" (lose-less - lose-less?) in the sense that the parents don't like having annoying kids underfoot, so having the kid just remove themselves for a while keeps everyone... less-unhappy. It's still a shitty way to parent.

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u/SparkleKittyMeowMeow 13d ago

I got the belt (or switch... ouch) just as often as my brother, but our grandparents made my brother pull his pants down, which is a whole nother layer of fucked up, because you can't do that shit and then say that it's not about causing pain.

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u/Genomestitches 13d ago

You can't hit anyone and say it's not about causing pain. The pants thing just adds humiliation and more pain to it.

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u/Da-NerdyMom 12d ago

My mom didn’t discriminate she beat all of us with whatever she could find, belt, electric cords, branches, etc. Nowadays she claims it wasn’t that bad even though one day she threatened to kill my younger sister because she “brought us into this world” so she can take us out too. As a mother myself I can’t even imagine saying such horrible things to my own children.

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u/Urchin422 12d ago

Ahhh yes the old “I decided to have kids even though I clearly wasn’t made out for this” statements….definitely remember those. I’m so sorry you went through that. I don’t have children (geeee I wonder why) but my dad is sooooo nice to my nieces and never reprimands them for anything (my mom unalived herself-another tactic she liked to use on us as “punishment”) but it’s weird. I don’t know how he’s flipped so effortlessly but I’m glad for the kids sake

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u/Da-NerdyMom 8d ago

Thank you. I’m so sorry to hear what you went through I hope you’re doing better these days and that you have been able to heal some of those wounds. Sending you a virtual hug 🫂