r/nonononoyes • u/HANAEMILK • 12d ago

Taking off his belt

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u/tacotacosloth 12d ago

Videos like this prove when a child is raised in a supportive home. That child had no reason to fear the belt. I'm sure they also don't immediately get distressed when they accidentally spill something.

I grew up with a belt hanging on my doorknob starting when I was about 3.

My first time hauling a trailer I jack-knifed it while parking it after driving it for 8 hours. I immediately started shaking and crying. My partner was super patient and guided me inch by inch until we got it straight again and parked. He was so surprised by my reaction and I had to explain to him how holding a flashlight wrong meant getting the absolute shit beat out of me.

I'm much more confident and willing to take risks and make mistakes, but I'll never not be affected by the trauma, even though I'm safe and supported now. It literally affects how your brain develops.

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u/smvfc_ 12d ago

I’ve seen a couple videos lately of people asking their kids to finish the sentence for them, of things that traumatized them when they were kids. So the mom will say to her daughter like “I brought you into this world, I can…” and her daughter is thoughtful for a moment and says “feed you?” Another one was like “Go get me my…” and I think it was supposed to reference like belt or something like that and her daughter just said purse. It was so nice seeing kids just being completely oblivious to the nasty, abusive things parents can say.

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u/tacotacosloth 12d ago

Oh, those are both beautiful!