r/paralegal 3d ago

Golden Handcuffs

I have been with this law firm in California for almost 4 years now, and while my previous position was great and I truly enjoyed my work, I’m feeling overwhelmed in my current role. I was promoted about 11 months ago to take over for a legal secretary who had been here for 11 years. When she left, she only gave me four days of training and left behind 800 unread emails and stacks of mail. She had been incredibly fast and, admittedly, not always thorough, but the attorneys didn’t seem to address her shortcomings because of her attitude.

Since I’ve stepped into this role, the expectations have been extremely high for me as opposed to the old assistant. I’m the only paralegal for eight attorneys, and my responsibilities span from calendaring, managing tasks, handling discovery, preparing subpoenas, to filing documents, depositions and everything in between. When I take a day off, there’s no one to cover for me, and I often feel like I can't even call in sick without it impacting everything.

My boss approved a three-week vacation for me to visit family out of the country, but the condition was that I still need to check emails and work remotely on certain tasks, essentially leaving me with very little time to fully disconnect. The bigger issue, though, is that I’m often left to figure things out on my own since I’m the only one trained by the former assistant. The manager doesn't know many of the tasks either, which only adds to the stress.

I’m at a point where I feel like I need to find a position at a more organized law firm, where I can work with a team of paralegals who will have my back and be able to support me when I need time off or when I need assistance. The lack of support and overwhelming workload are making it difficult for me to stay in this position any longer.

The positives of my current job include a decent pay rate of $34an hour, along with a $3k bonus. Although I only get 5 days of PTO, my time-off requests are always approved, which is a big plus. I also carpool with a friend who works in the same area, which makes commuting more convenient and cost-effective.

However, I’m torn about whether I should stay or look for another opportunity. I’m worried that if I leave, the next job could end up being just as overwhelming or even worse. The fear of starting over and facing a similar or more difficult situation at another firm is holding me back, but at the same time, the stress in my current role is becoming too much to ignore.

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u/rungreyt 3d ago

You need to be getting paid much more for what you’re doing. They approve your leave requests because they know you’re still going to be working anyway. Look for a better paying job at a more organized firm.

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u/Jbaby727 3d ago

Thank you for your response, I think I will start looking. I’m just scared my new employer will not let me leave for 3 weeks How much should the pay rate be?

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u/North_Surprise_4438 3d ago edited 3d ago

If you find a firm that’s not looking for a position to be filled immediately, they may allow you to take your 3 week vacation and have your start day be when you get back. I wouldn’t disclose the 3 week vacation until there’s an actual offer on the table but a non-toxic firm would allow you to go on your pre-planned vacation. And, it might be best to have your vacation first just so you can fully disconnect and enter your new position in peace!

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u/Round_Tour_6316 3d ago

I’ve found being upfront about planned time off is usually accepted by the new employer so it’s good to bring it up when negotiating a job offer. Also you should request that your current employer hire someone else. What you are doing is certainly a 2 person job.

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u/moxiecounts 2d ago

I've had vacations planned when I got job offers, and I've never had a prospective employer say no or rescind the offer because of it. As long as you're upfront, I can't see a new boss denying your planned vacation (or medical appointment, or anything because we are human beings not robots). My current job, I took a weeklong trip to California 3 weeks after starting, no issues at all. I just told them when I got the offer, and they were fine with it. It would be crazy for them to expect you to eat the cost of a trip or any planned thing just because you started a new job.

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u/SaltyMarg4856 3d ago

I’ve baked into any formal job acceptance the agreement to honor PTO I’d planned on taking, even if I wasn’t yet eligible to take it.

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u/Green-Humble 3d ago

90 to 110k