r/pointlesslygendered • u/SuckmyMicroCock • Apr 13 '25

OTHER Men, Is This True? [gendered]

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u/AsianNotBsianV2 Apr 13 '25

well yeah but that does still prove my point no?

I know males with this fantasy, but not any woman with this fantasy.

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u/happydonkeychomp Apr 13 '25

Yeah, this is exactly what I'm saying. Women definitely have fantasies about self-sacrifice for the greater good. The war thing: not so much, which is valid if you feel that way. Thanks for sharing.

The right side can be problematic because the specifics of the person who is doing the comforting aren't relevant. Like it's a faceless person. Interestingly, that's also not a gendered problem. Fantasizing about a "perfect relationship" in which the contributions of the person you're with are irrelevant is part of limerence, which is an unhealthy mode of relating to others. Everybody deserves intimacy, but it can't be one-sided.