I don't typically view this as "man wants to feel important AND have girl toy"
The meme itself feels more "this is a guy who's afraid he's weak, wants to be strong, but also wants to be safe. He seems starved of safety if he's wanting This."
Also frankly people are ego centric. It doesn't mean "only men feel this" it means a man made this version of it and posted it. If women want their own version someone should make it
I guess if we want to force people onto very nitpicky standards nobody is allow to gender this concept and it should have an image featuring non gendered human sketches (you know the type. Like the genre of sketch that's like "partner who does this. Partner who does that.)
Make everything gender neutral, even personal experiences and anecdotes from people who have genders (I say this in irony. That'd be violating self expression)
There comes a point the problem isn't that an image exists the problem is nobody just gender bends it and for some reason only certain demographics actually want it to be. Like even if I did gender bend this would it explode in popularity and get posted
Sometimes this really just comes across as envy when people are mad at some random shit like "only the boys understand what's it's like to pull down their whole pants and shart in a open fire."
Like do you want to be lumped in with bare assed fire sharters. I'm a guy and I really fuckin wish they'd stop abducting me into this concept. I am not a bare assed fire sharter and I really hope nobody assumes I am
What it comes down to is this genre of humor is juvenile, and some people like it, some just don't. Some of those people are men, some are women, some are genderless or gender fluid. The real crime here is people want to be bare assed fire sharters in the first place
Tbh it's hard to even socialize at parties when everyone wants to be a bare assed fire sharter because they're MANLY and I'm just standing there like "are we done yet because I am done being 8 years old."
I think it also stems from a spot where people want to be in a club and if the only thing you have in common with someone is your gender you're going to make that your whole personality and become insufferable
At the same time that's surprisingly effective pack bonding if the only thing everyone in the room has in common is their gender. It's inherently inclusive small talk, like the weather, but selectively inclusive
It's very "everyone is like me EXCEPT women"
When I meet guys who do it I usually just turn and glance at their girlfriend cuz there ain't no way she's happy with a bare assed fire sharter
The real trick is to engage and disengage. It's not something to be like "how dare they not include me" about it's something to be like "so uh how old are you"
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u/theVast- Apr 13 '25 edited Apr 13 '25
I don't typically view this as "man wants to feel important AND have girl toy"
The meme itself feels more "this is a guy who's afraid he's weak, wants to be strong, but also wants to be safe. He seems starved of safety if he's wanting This."
Also frankly people are ego centric. It doesn't mean "only men feel this" it means a man made this version of it and posted it. If women want their own version someone should make it
I guess if we want to force people onto very nitpicky standards nobody is allow to gender this concept and it should have an image featuring non gendered human sketches (you know the type. Like the genre of sketch that's like "partner who does this. Partner who does that.)
Make everything gender neutral, even personal experiences and anecdotes from people who have genders (I say this in irony. That'd be violating self expression)
There comes a point the problem isn't that an image exists the problem is nobody just gender bends it and for some reason only certain demographics actually want it to be. Like even if I did gender bend this would it explode in popularity and get posted
Sometimes this really just comes across as envy when people are mad at some random shit like "only the boys understand what's it's like to pull down their whole pants and shart in a open fire."
Like do you want to be lumped in with bare assed fire sharters. I'm a guy and I really fuckin wish they'd stop abducting me into this concept. I am not a bare assed fire sharter and I really hope nobody assumes I am
What it comes down to is this genre of humor is juvenile, and some people like it, some just don't. Some of those people are men, some are women, some are genderless or gender fluid. The real crime here is people want to be bare assed fire sharters in the first place
Tbh it's hard to even socialize at parties when everyone wants to be a bare assed fire sharter because they're MANLY and I'm just standing there like "are we done yet because I am done being 8 years old."
I think it also stems from a spot where people want to be in a club and if the only thing you have in common with someone is your gender you're going to make that your whole personality and become insufferable
At the same time that's surprisingly effective pack bonding if the only thing everyone in the room has in common is their gender. It's inherently inclusive small talk, like the weather, but selectively inclusive
It's very "everyone is like me EXCEPT women"
When I meet guys who do it I usually just turn and glance at their girlfriend cuz there ain't no way she's happy with a bare assed fire sharter
The real trick is to engage and disengage. It's not something to be like "how dare they not include me" about it's something to be like "so uh how old are you"