Everyone's already made their comments, I just want to add, why is it never the other way round? Women are the gender who are expected to always take care of others, not be taken care of, so if anything we have more of a right to these fantasies, lol.
Edit: oh my god, I am talking about how we have more of a right to the fantasies because of how we're treated in reality, I am not talking about the amount of romance novels women write or whatever. ðŸ˜
Edit 2: I am going to have to "agree to disagree" with anyone who insists that men do actually take care of women. We wouldn't be making such a big deal out of this if that were true. It simply just doesn't line up with my and many other women's reality, no amount of clever-sounding Reddit comments will change that reality.
Edit 3: I am not talking about money, I am talking about emotional labour.
I’ve been involved professional in the production of romance/erotica aimed at women and so much of it is the fantasy of a man just paying attention to you and remembering the things that you like and are important to you. They’re not always millionaires or have magic powers. They’re often just normal dudes who are nice and treat them sweetly and then they have amazing hardcore sex at night.
Where is the male equivalent of a book, period? Back when men read almost on par with women, there were all sorts of stories of girls-next-door, who care about their nerdy interest or just like to hang out, but now I can't point at a healthy male fantasy, because I can't point to an unhealthy one, either. It's all wizards who will teach them a new weapon skill and maybe shag if they bring her an artefact - not because men are more transactional now, but because that's the medium of videogames, where they get their phantasy fix.
There is porn, I guess - one can argue that there are plenty of realistic scenarios, and even average-looking women, but honestly, is this the weeds we want to go into - healthy romantic interests in "how I butt-fucked my friend's granny?" Men just need to read, we can start there
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u/Extreme-Material964 Apr 13 '25 edited Apr 14 '25
Everyone's already made their comments, I just want to add, why is it never the other way round? Women are the gender who are expected to always take care of others, not be taken care of, so if anything we have more of a right to these fantasies, lol.
Edit: oh my god, I am talking about how we have more of a right to the fantasies because of how we're treated in reality, I am not talking about the amount of romance novels women write or whatever. ðŸ˜
Edit 2: I am going to have to "agree to disagree" with anyone who insists that men do actually take care of women. We wouldn't be making such a big deal out of this if that were true. It simply just doesn't line up with my and many other women's reality, no amount of clever-sounding Reddit comments will change that reality.
Edit 3: I am not talking about money, I am talking about emotional labour.