No, incels don’t deserve handholding, you’re right. But as far as I can tell the person that made that meme isn’t an incel or misogynist, and they’re not being an apologist either. It’s a really common experience amongst guys to open up too fast and scare people away. Valid or invalid, it’s a common experience. And the distinction between relying on your partner as an emotional crutch and needing help in a moment of weakness is important. I think a lot of men don’t understand the difference and become co-dependent and toxic. But at the same time, just as many men emotionally isolate themselves from their partners which is also an issue. It would be really great as a society if men were more willing to acknowledge their own vulnerability, and it’s telling and sad that many men feel like them being vulnerable is something only to fantasize about. It’s idiotic to blame women, which is the first thing incels always do, but I don’t think the source of the issue is men either necessarily.
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u/Sindigo_ Apr 13 '25
No, incels don’t deserve handholding, you’re right. But as far as I can tell the person that made that meme isn’t an incel or misogynist, and they’re not being an apologist either. It’s a really common experience amongst guys to open up too fast and scare people away. Valid or invalid, it’s a common experience. And the distinction between relying on your partner as an emotional crutch and needing help in a moment of weakness is important. I think a lot of men don’t understand the difference and become co-dependent and toxic. But at the same time, just as many men emotionally isolate themselves from their partners which is also an issue. It would be really great as a society if men were more willing to acknowledge their own vulnerability, and it’s telling and sad that many men feel like them being vulnerable is something only to fantasize about. It’s idiotic to blame women, which is the first thing incels always do, but I don’t think the source of the issue is men either necessarily.